Ha! I had a cousin make the same freaking comment regarding me having an engagement party and bridal shower. I wasn't going to have a bridal shower but since you made a comment, guess what I will. My maid of honor is my little sister, who has her own responsibilities with her child and stuff, 1 bridesmaid is planning her own DW and the other 2 are in their own world. So I am helping my sister plan my bridal shower as in looking for the location and pricing the food and drinks for her. I get frustrated about it also. But your friend seems a bit negative, better to drop her maybe?