BrownSugar, I'm guilty of this exact thinking!!! I'm sorry My friend has also decided to have a dw 3 months after mine and i'm now getting the news that she's possibly going to do it offsite in Jamaica. And my exact thought was "well what about your guests staying at the resort?"(thinking of how I'm not doing my own offsite b/c I don't want anyone to feel some type of way) I explained to her, well if you charter the transportation for everyone to get to your ceremony site, reception site and back to the resort, then it's fine. Otherwise, I'd assume people will either back out or choose whatever resort is closer to the offsite wedding which in my opinion, kinda defeats my idea of "a huge family vacation". I think if you provide the transportation for everyone and still explain that you have certain activities at the resort, it should all be fine!!!