Sorry your FI is going through this. All I have to say about that is, I think your FI needs to re-assess some of these relationships, especially the Best Man. That's not right for him to ask for concessions and he should be ashamed of himself for even asking, especially when he makes a good living. Honestly, I am so glad we chose not to have a bridal party. I just have my MOH and he has one BM and they are married to each other and we have a flower girl. I went to the wedding of my FBIL and he had issues with his groomsmen because they all flaked because they didn't like his bride. My FI was of course there for him, but he needed three other guys. None of his "best friends from back in the day" even showed up to the wedding. The guys who were in the wedding were guys he met in the military and they didn't know his bride. Do you think these guys are giving him a hard time because they have a problem with you?