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Hi Ladies, Totally off topic!! I just made from scratch mine and my 2 co-workers Halloween costumes and Im very proud of them, a DIY not wedding related, but here it is !!

Quote: Originally Posted by csho Hi ladies! So I got my girls beach bags, Havaiana flip flops, and some lipsyl with SPF in it. Do you think thats enough of a gift? I also made them MOH/BM tanks and hangers but I feel like those are more for me then them since I want them to be used for wedding day getting ready photos. I also paid for their dresses and will be paying for their hair - again I don't think this stuff really counts towards a gift but am wondering if you guys think thats enough or if I should get something else? Yes that is plenty! I would of loved to pay for the attire, but we just couldn't afford it.

Good evening Ladies, I thought I would share some of my picture ideas for the wedding day

Those are fantastic Lynda!!

Quote: Originally Posted by csho Well that's what we're here for! Vent away! Thank you!!! xo

Quote: Originally Posted by alley08 Hey Kay. We are having an AHR or variation of an AHR later on in the year when the weather is nice. We just bought a house that has a huge back yard. So we are going to do an open house kind of thing. Nothing sit down and we won't be wearing our outfits again. You can just come and go as you please. There will be lots of food and drinks and if you can come great and if you don't feel it's necessary or don't care to that's fine too. Just a laid back kind of feel to the day. Good to hear that the prices are the same. $15/person for the palapas and $10/person/hour for the party on the beach. Matt and I rarely argue. I have been making most of the decisions as I have a very specific vision, so sometimes when I'm feeling overwhelmed with things (usually making decisions......I'm horrible at it) I am not overly pleasant and it leads to a mini argument or me feeling resentful. I need to ask for help when I feel like this. I've learned a lot planning this wedding. lol I hope you guys work it out and you both get the things you want. Thats exactly what I would love to do.. the house thing, big backyard etc. - but we don't have that option! Something will work, I just needed a little vent I think!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by jolene028 Kay, So Troy wanted to have an AHR but here is my argument... we went to a DW about 4 years ago, and we spent a lot of money to go, it was about $4200 for both of us the wedding was in February, then in June they had the AHR and honestly being there it felt like a wedding reception, and when talking to the people that went to Cuba for the wedding, they all kind of felt the way I did which was hey I am glad I spent so much money to go to Cuba for the wedding when they had the reception here... seriously I was insulted, so for me I said to Troy I don't want to insult the people that paid the money to celebrate the day with us, it is a slap in the face... believe it or not when I put it like that he totally agreed with me, I just want it to be something special that we did with the people that chose to be there for us! If we were to do something I would do something totally casual, like have a party BBQ or something BYOB and just have pictures of the wedding up on a screen or something but I wouldn't wear my dress or have Troy wear his suit! But that is just my opinion, I totally understand why people have them and to be honest Troy's mom cancelled on us 4 days before final payment, and we still aren't having one! But hey that's just me! I hope you guys can work something out that is for both of you! Other than that, Troy and I argue about the small things all the time... not blow up in your face sort of stuff but a little bickering here and there, I think right now because we are both so desperate for a vacation there is nothing to argue about! LOL mostly I have made all the decisions and he has gone along with them, I thought that this would make me mad, but honestly it has been good our only wedding fight was at the beginning when the TA was screwing us around with our prices Troy thought that there should be more that I could do I told him to plan the F***ing wedding and we have been good since LOL WOW we are only being charged $10 per person for our private party on the beach... Quote: Originally Posted by csho Fortunately Mark and I rarely argue, he is pretty laid back and usually lets me make the decisions which is great, except when he doesn't give me input because he says he doesn't care... which ok he really probably doesn't care what colour the napkins are lol! But it drives me nuts when he doesn't give me an opinion, but then he'll have very strong opinions on other things... such as trashing the dress... I really really wanted to do a trash the dress, but this was something he was very much against since we are having a catholic wedding ceremony when we return and he feels that I will ruin the dress and won't be able to wear it for the catholic ceremony. Ok I get that, but its frustrating because he just doesn't understand that a little sand and water won't ruin it... but I also feel like oh god what if something did happen and then I would feel really bad because I know he really wants me to wear the same dress. So we are not doing the trash dress... that's my compromise on the wedding lol and then he pretty much lets me make most of the other decisions lol! I would say forgo the gala set up since it really doesn't make that much difference. Even with the chairs they have there you can still tie the sashes around the back of them and I think it would look good. Just get someone in your party to do it, if they won't . Personally I would spend the money on the private party though. It is your wedding and at the end of the day an extra $900 in the span of your lifetime isn't much and I think you'd regret not doing it. And then after the party head over to the disco. With that said if you really can't afford it, I saw on the fb group someone who brought their own speakers and set them up under the rock by the pool and just tip a bar tender to bring you trays of drinks over. I think though people spent a lot to come to the wedding and celebrate with you, so if you can afford it without going into debt I'd do the private beach party. I just feel like having an AHR is like ok heres a party for all you people who didn't even come to my wedding whereas you're kind of ripping off the people who actually spent the money to be at it... I don't know if that makes me sound mean or anything cause I really am not lol! But those are my thoughts. Thanks ladies, like I said we never argue to the point one of is actually absolutely upset. But lately I've been a little upset, were ready to just be in Cuba already!!! I agree, I think it is a slap in the face to the people that did attend out DW, but FI wants one no if ands or buts. We will figure it out.... It is $10/person/hour......

Quote: Originally Posted by alley08 Sounds like we are on the same schedule. That's awesome. I forgot to ask you. Did you guys decide on whether or not you are having a reception on the beach? The cost is more than I thought. With the dinner in the palapas and two hours on the beach it will cost $35/person. Not a ton in the grand scheme of things but I was a bit surprised at the cost. How are you making out with finalizing things We are planning on doing the party on the beach for two hours, what we aren't for sure on is the gala set up. We are having our dinner in at the Cuban restaurant, and with it ending at 8:30 I don't want that to be too much of a break until the disco opens. The entertainment at the resort is fantastic, but I kind of wanted a different wedding-ish feel that evening. Because we are doing an AHR (Andrew wants one, I don't) I really don't want to spend the money on the gala set up or the private party. Being that the gala will be $675 and the private party $900 for 45 people. That's a lot of money when were going to be doing an AHR too.. Im a little torn at the moment as to what we will for sure be doing! As for finalizing things; we are booked for the Cuban on our wedding day. And other than that I know Giselle will handle everything once we are down there. My FI Andrew & I are arguing a bit (which we rarely do). Mainly about the AHR and his and his groomsmen attire!!!! ... Is anyone else having little arguments?

Quote: Originally Posted by alley08 That's exciting you are done the other job. Now more time for wedding planning. Yes we received our flight details. We lucked out. We got some really good flight times. We leave bright and early on the 22nd. How about you? Have you heard yet? Your FH's jacket is AWESOME. I really love it. Good pick. Looks just like the picture. I can't wait to see it all come together. Will post pics soon.....such a slacker! lol Talk soon Yes, Andrew & I leave the 21st at 6:10am and our guest leave the 22nd at 6:45am and we all depart Varadero on the 29th to come home ( LOL) at 11:15am......

Quote: Originally Posted by jolene028 This is fantastic... is that the colour that the blazer is going to be?? It really is awesome! Yes, our colours are the dark purple and royal blue. Here is blazer I found and ordered on Ebay.

Hi ladies, So we found a new look for FI attire... feedback please!!! Groomsmen will wear the same minus the blazer

Quote: Originally Posted by jolene028 Troy did houseboating for his stag, they has so much fun that they are thinking of making it a yearly guys trip! My stagette is next weekend I am pretty excited about it, except that I fell off a horse and severely sprained my ankle so I have to wear runners... LOL this close to the wedding I am not allowed to par take in any extreme sports and apparently with that includes dancing and drinking in heels LOL One month today until we leave. Yes post some pictures I can't wait to see them! That's an awesome idea for a stag! Rest that foot up girl and get better soon! Your so close now