kisha311

So it is officially my turn to do my planning thread, where has the time gone? It seems like it was just yesterday and I had a year to go! I am currently on our first flight to Miami, so I am having issues trying to attach pictures, I will go back and add them later, but you can ready about the details and ask questions. Sorry about the lack of photos, the wi-fi on the plane isn't that strong. Anyway, here goes nothing. OUR ENGAGEMENT Ben and I met in 2003 at work through a friend we had in common, it was a quick hello in passing. It was a chance meeting, nothing more nothing less. Fast forward to 2010, and we crossed paths again at work through a different mutual friend. Ben lives in my hometown, DC, and I live in NY so I was home for a visit. This time the three of us went out to lunch, but I had just gotten out of a pretty bad break-up situation so I wasn’t looking for a guy in my life at all! A week after lunch Ben started emailing me very randomly. I didn’t think anything of it and went with the flow. Over time he grew on me and before I knew it, we were making plans to go on a date the next time I went home to visit. Our first date was nice and everything took off from there. Fast forward again to March 31st, 2012 and I was home again for the weekend. He was especially annoying that morning, I was down there for a laundry list of items that I needed to take care of that weekend and he was just being so clingy. As we are laying in bed and I was going over my To Do list that morning, he taps me on the shoulder and shoves the ring in my face. I proceeded to smack his hand away from my face, luckily the ring didn’t go flying across the room! He said some stuff that I really don’t remember and I said Yes! THE RING A few months prior to his proposal, he asked me what types of rings I liked. I sent him a few pictures and gave him an idea, but said that I’m not picky as long as I don’t need a magnifying glass to see the diamond! He did very well! He purchased the main diamond in my ring on a trip to Africa, and the surrounding diamonds came from his mother’s ring that was given to her by her mother. He worked with a jeweler and they designed the ring and I was totally surprised and pleased! I had the date of our engagement engraved on the inside of the ring as well. We of course had to go back to the jeweler and design a band to coordinate with the ring. DECIDING ON A DESTINATION WEDDING We quickly decided to have a destination wedding due to a number of reasons. The main reason being cost! We are paying for the wedding ourselves and needed to be cost effective. After much deliberation about where to have the wedding, we settled on Turks & Caicos. Ben’s requirements were “No Spanish speaking country†because he doesn’t speak Spanish at all! My requirement was that we picked a place that we had either been together, or neither of us had ever been. We’ve been to some pretty exotic places due to work, so that was cost prohibitive and we didn’t want to go to Hawaii. Turks & Caicos was a place I had always dreamed about going and knew would be beautiful, so he said let’s do it. We needed to choose a family friendly resort, as he has a 9 year old son and we could not imagine going someplace without him or where he would be bored. Beaches was the best of both worlds for us! The website and all of the reviews for Beaches T&C sealed the deal. WEDDING COLORS I’m kind of a preppy meets athletic meets secretly wanting to be a vixen girl! I had to figure out a way to incorporate all of those things into the wedding colors. I didn’t want to choose all girly type colors because that’s just not me. I have come to accept and admit the fact that I really like the color pink! (How girly is that?) So I allowed him one color choice and he said blue. I settled on navy blue and a fuschia/hot pink type of color combination. TRAVEL AGENT This has been the worst part of this entire DW experience. Initially I could not find a travel agent and was asking around to everyone that I knew. No one had recommendations. I tried going to Liberty Travel and inquired with them, but I was told that it was too soon for them to organize anything and put together packages for potential guests since airfare wasn’t available for June 2013 yet. This was the month of April 2012! I gave up on them. Then my mom got a recommendation from a friend of a friend. She and I spoke and I just went along with her because she seemed pretty knowledgeable at the time. By nature, I still always do my own research so when I ask questions, I like to feel confident that I am getting an honest answer. Well I should have seen the warning flags from the very beginning. There have been many problems with this agent, but I will save that for a different post. BRIDAL PARTY So my husband to be came to me like a week after being engaged and informed me that he had 3 groomsmen! I had not even thought about bridesmaids so I had to get busy! I wanted to keep things small, since he and I are both only children and have been adopted by so many friends who are like family. So we settled on 3 groomsmen, 3 bridesmaids, 1 ring bearer (his son) and a flower girl. It was at that point that I discovered Etsy! I started seeing the “Will you be my Bridesmaid†cards, passport invitations, etc. I was searching google and found Allurements by Rebecca. She was the best thing that could have happened to me. Rebecca introduced me to BDW and the whole wealth of information contained here! I ordered my “Will You be My Bridesmaid/Flower Girl†cards from her. When I saw the cards, I also found a link to Bridesmaid Wines. All of my girls are wine drinkers so I ordered a bottle of wine to go with each card (except the flower girl of course!) SAVE THE DATES I knew that I wanted to do something cute, but out of the ordinary for the save the dates. I had a ton of save the date magnets from other people, and I really didn’t want to do that. I decided that we would have Passport Save the Dates. Rebecca was great to work with, and it was nice because she’s based in NYC just like me. We met a couple of times during lunch to go over details, and we went through a lot of emails back and forth. The Save the dates came back and they were AMAZING! Rebecca even gave me a great presentation idea for them. The travel agent that we used created a flyer for the wedding guests and I wanted to mail that out with each passport, so we packaged everything very nicely in coordinating envelopes and ribbon. All of our family and friends that received them were so impressed and excited! In the end we ordered about 150 passports from Rebecca! Everyone kept them on their refrigerators and liked the passport because it reminded them to take care of that. MONOGRAM Once again, Rebecca saved the day! I was trying to design our monogram myself because I figured it was easy and cheaper. Well, there were many late nights and long days at work spent on this. I gave up and went with Rebecca. She saved the day and really came through. We both loved it and I vowed that I would slap that sucker on everything that I could! I have made cards, stickers, books, etc with the monogram so that we would get our money’s worth! WEDDING WEBSITE So after browsing, perusing, and flat out stalking other people’s wedding websites, I went with www.weddingwindow.com for our website. It was very customizable and offered great options. I did pay the additional fee to have more functionality, but I think it was worth it. I t took me about a week of working midnight shifts to get the website complete, but it was fun! Our website is www.future-mr-and-mrs-blocker.com if you want to check it out. PHOTOGRAPHY This was my one area that I knew would be a total splurge. I’ve been a fan of Ross Oscar Knight Photography for years. He’s based in Atlanta, therefore I’ve followed his work online forever. I always told myself that when it was my turn to get married, he would be the photographer. Well I relayed this to the fiancée and he agreed. Although it has cost us a good bit of our budget to book Ross and pay for his accommodations, he’s so worth it! He happened to have a business trip to NYC last June so we were able to do our engagement photos in Prospect Park in Brooklyn. We had a blast and Ross was so cool! There were so many nice shots to choose from after that we had a really hard time deciding. I can’t wait for the wedding! His website is www.rossoscarknight.com WEDDING PACKAGE Many of the Sandals/Beaches brides know that they have the Martha Stewart weddings packages. Initially we were going to do the Seaside Serenade package because I really like the seashell theme for the beach. Well as things moved along and we got more RSVP’s, I decided that the package was not cost effective! We are going with the Beautiful Beginnings package and customizing some aspects. Namely, we will be bringing our own table décor, creating our own menu’s and escort cards, and upgrading my bouquet. DRESS AND SHOE SHOPPING Sooooo, my dear mother really wanted to go to Kleinfeld’s because of Say Yes to the Dress on TLC. I am the anti-dress girl so it was a struggle to get me to buy and browse through bridal magazines. They are all so overwhelming! Anyway, I made an appointment at Kleinfeld’s, and 3 other bridal salons all on the same day. I was determined to find a dress that day, namely because at the time work was so busy and I was traveling an insane amount of time last year. I never expected to find a dress in the very first store we went to, but I found a lovely Pnina Tornae in Kleinfeld’s that morning and I said yes! We did keep the other appointments that day, just in case I found something else, but I knew that it was the one. I can’t post a picture of the dress yet, he may stumble across this on my computer! Sorry ladies. I told you that I secretly want to be a vixen, so my shoes had to be hot! I love shoes, although I NEVER get to wear heels. I was on a mission to find a nice pair of heels that would be my splurge, and I found them. They are Giuseppe Zannotti and I got them on clearance on Zappos Coutoure, although the clearance price is still the price I would pay for 5 pairs of my regular shoes! I ordered them in ivory (the only color they come in) and took them to a shoe store recommended on Park Avenue to get them dyed. I thought I would walk in ask them to dye the shoes navy, who knew there were so many shades and variations of navy blue? I had no color swatches so I took a deep breath and picked a shade. They came out PERFECT! DECORATIONS I have some really great friends, and they have been painting seashells for me for the past couple of months! They are attending the wedding and will be transporting the seashells to T&C as well for me. They have sent me photos of the work in progress, and I have had one opportunity to see them in person and they are great! In addition, every table will have navy blue table runners and hot pink personalized votive holders. I’m still working on the table numbers, but I think they will be simple. That is still TBD at this point. Everything will be held outside so I don’t think we need lots of décor. We will not be getting married on the sand, I need to wear my million dollar shoes as much as possible and the sand makes that impossible. We will have the ceremony on a gazebo overlooking the ocean, and the reception will be outdoors as well. INVITATIONS These were a true labor of love involving many, many, many long nights. I drew a lot of inspiration from here and Etsy and came up with something in the middle. We wanted a more traditional invitation so that our parents would have something that they could keep. I didn’t want to use a starfish as a main theme since it seems so common and I’m always trying to be slightly different. We went with a sand dollar and I ordered bulk from an eBay seller, I will have to check that name. But they all cam well packaged and none were broke. I ordered 150! I also sat and wrote on all 150 with a silver sharpie, talk about tired hands! I designed our inserts with Ecrandal Studios on Etsy (they were very nice to work with), bought the enclosures from, and had the printing done by Paper Presentation. The sand dollars were purchased on eBay and the shipping boxes were purchased from ULine. All of the backings for the invitation inserts were measured and cut by me and my paper cutter. The filler in the invitation boxes was purchased from Paper Presentation and Michaels. The custom stamps were purchased on www.zazzle.com. Shipping on these invites were over the budget that I mentally set, caught me by surprise for sure! I got lucky because a good friend of mine got married 2 years ago and still had a TON of postage left over from her wedding, she just gave me all of her stamps. Said she wasn’t going to use them for anything, she pays everything online anyway. It was a tremendous help and I am eternally grateful to her for that. The post office clerks were on a first name basis with me by the time I got through mailing all of those bad boys. OOT BAGS So as soon as we settled on a location and a date, I started shopping for OOT bags and items. I kind of forgot/lost track of what I purchased at one point. However, I created a spreadsheet that showed me exactly how much I was spending. I immediately started guessing on the number of people that would attend the wedding, we sent 150 Save the Dates and formal Invitations. I estimated 75 people and we have 82 total! Not too bad, and I always bought extra of everything. We will have 15 children and 67 adults. I had a lot of fun purchasing things, I must admit! I will just list out everything that is associated with the bags, it’s just easier. Pink jute tote bags – Women (www.discountmugs.com) Blue drawstring backpacks – Men and Children (www.4allpromos.com) Character drawstring backpacks for the young children (local discount store in NYC) Pashminas – local retailer in NYC, can’t remember where exactly as it was a random purchase Journals – for the ladies (Michaels Dollar Bin) Note Pads & Pens – Vistaprint Acrylic Tumblers – Dollar Tree (special ordered from the store directly) Foldable Water bottles – www.4allpromos.com Pencil Cases, Pencils, Journals, Crayons & Coloring pencils – for the kids depending on their age (Staples & Target during the back to school sales in August) most items purchased for $0.25/each! Coloring Rolls – various characters for boys & girls (Michaels) Sunglasses – for the little kids (Target) Gatorade Packets – clearance section (Target) Hangover Shots – Groupon deal! Advil/Alka Seltzer/Trident Gum/Antihistamine Tablets/Anti-Diarrhea Tablets/Breath Strips/Antibiotic Cream – Dollar Tree Hand Sanitizer & Carrier/Candles – Bath & Body Works end of season clearance sale Personalized Matches – www.theknot.com First-Aid Kits/Nail Clippers/Sunscreen/Children’s body wash/Nail Files/Nail Polish Remover Wipes/Glasses Wipes/Emergen-C/Peptobismol –Walmart Personalized Lip Balm – blank lip balm from www.bulkapothecary.com Bug Repellant Wipes – REI Welcome Folder – folder purchased at Paper Presentation (www.paperpresentation.com) but I went to the store and found them on clearance Welcome Letter – Vistaprint All other info letters – designed based on info received from other BDW brides and printed at home and at work Groomsmen T-Shirts – Vistaprint I will pick back up when I have downloaded the pictures! I forgot to take pics of the women’s bags before be packed everything up. More to come….

Hey ladies, I know that I haven't been active on this thread in quite a while but things have been quite BUSY for me. Work has been tremendously busy, I had to move, and we are on our way to the wedding! I will post the beginning of my planning thread and try to update again soon. Roxy came through for me and she and I actually got along quite well as long as I presented her with the facts and information that I already had. I'm excited to see things in person, I hope it looks like, or better, than the pictures in my head. Anyway, I will try to answer any questions that I can as soon as possible. Good luck!!!

Does it have to be in the Bahamas? You don't have to do it at Atlantis, but there are other private islands on the Bahamas that you can consider. Check out www.stylemepretty.com for ideas of other places in the Bahamas. There some really beautiful weddings there in other places. I hope this helps.

Amber, So sad to see you go, but totally understand. Good luck with everything and I'm still very happy for you!!

I'm waaaaay far behind, trying to play catch up now. You ladies are moving along and I feel like I'm standing still. There are still a ton of DIY that I have left to do, trying to fit it in with a busier than normal work schedule. In the midst of it all, I have had to move. It was unexpected and I was unprepared. Makes for a very stressed girl. Oh well, it's helped with some weight loss, my first dress fitting is tomorrow and I'm extremely paranoid. I think it's going to look huge because the size they ordered made me think twice about ever eating again.

You looked so beautiful! Your makeup looked flawless, great selections. Can't wait to read the rest of what you have to say

Oh man, I feel grossly unprepared now! I haven't thought that much about my make-up but now I guess I need to. This is going to be interesting considering I've never been one too concerned with make-up. I'm afraid!

You rock Alexis! Great detail thus far, I'm in panic mode and I still have 2 months to go.

You rock Alexis! Great detail thus far, I'm in panic mode and I still have 2 months to go.

I totally understand and feel your pain. I have decided that whoever has not taken the time to RSVP is not going. Period. I have even gone to our website and filled in the info and kept my count accurate. I sent follow-up emails to those who we had not heard from and decided that their silence was the best answer. It's too much to worry about for me. I am in the process of moving to stay with family, move my furniture in with my fiancee (who lives in another state) complete my wedding DIY's and various other projects, and continue to work a crazy schedule. We do not know how long it will be before I get my official work transfer to be with him after we are officially married. My fiancee and I both work for the federal government and the whole world knows that the US government is basically broke, so it's a stressful situation all the way around. I'm going with a NO for those we haven't heard from and if they come to us closer to the wedding date and say they are coming, then good for them. Maybe they'll get an OOT bag, maybe they won't!

Thank you Krys, That helps a lot! We are working on the budget again now, we both work for the government and with all of the budget issues we have to make some adjustments. Of course I feel like it's a conspiracy against me. Anyway, that really helps and I appreciate you providing some perspective on the distance. Kisha