I have a big crowd, but only 4-5 single people of each gender. I was thinking of telling everyone to catch the bouquet, regardless of if they are married, and whoever catches it gets a prize. I don't think people will be bored. Clearly these people are close to you, and they will be happy to see you do all the little traditions. I think people get more bored in big groups where they can't see everything and often cant hear everything that's going on. I'm a big game person, and we often play games with our friends. I don't know if you're drinkers, but we often play a game in which any time someone says a certain word then they have to do a shot. Our most common words are, for example, if they say a number, or if they say 'yes' or 'no', or if they say anyone's name. It keeps people on their toes and often gets a lot of laughs. For first dance, I would just do it in front of your small group. I am sure that they will not be bored! You could always edit your song to make it shorter if you're concerned about it lasting too long. I do like idea posted above, about going somewhere special for the night. I've heard of lots of people going on late night cruises or dinner shows, and I think it's a great idea! Good luck!