I agree with Kalik, it's YOUR wedding and it should be where and how YOU want it to be. (I'm having the same issues with my own mother) ( She complains constantly about how expensive our resort choice is (says we need to do a cruise even tried to push me to a resort that has horrible reviews) and complains about the ceremony site fee and says my ideas for OOT bags are just a waste of money.. I just want to to say, "shut up, I'm planning this wedding (as it is MY wedding) and paying for it, not you!" People also try the whole, I wanna come but it's a financial burdon. My wedding is in 14 months, they've known for months now we are doing a DW. So there is no reason for these people to not start saving money and have it by next year. A simple I'm not coming or I am coming would suffice. I don't need excuses, comments, nor do I want to know your financial issues.