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I have no idea why people think that's okay! You wouldn't try to sway people to have their wedding at a certain venue when it's local, so why would you do it for a destination wedding? I feel like the people think the etiquette of real weddings do not apply to away weddings. Ugh, so frustrating! But it's true, as long as your fiance and yourself are there, no one else really matters. No, we're staying at Dreams Palm Beach actually. Maybe our paths will meet up a different way while we're down there, on an excursion or something.

Thanks ladies!! I feel much more confident about our colour scheme now. I think it's just hard when I don't see many beach weddings on the internet with deeper colour schemes so I find it hard to visualize what I'm planning. But I'm sure it'll all work out now.

I totally know how you feel! A few weeks ago my mom wrote me an email detailing all the bad things that people said about the resort we're staying in based on reviews on trip advisor. Never mind the fact that the overwhelming majority of the reviews are "excellent," she decided to focus on the few negative reviews. I still can't for the life of me figure out why she sent me that email. All of our deposits are booked, so we're not changing the resort, so what gives? Have your parents done a lot of traveling? Mine have barely traveled anywhere so I'm chalking up all the negative comments and such to them being nervous or just wanting as much information as possible before going. Could you keep the wedding talk to a minimum with them until they start showing more excitement? It might help prevent the negative comments from coming up, or maybe just say "thanks for letting me know" and then move on to something else. Anyways, I understand what you're going through. What can you do, eh.

Everyone's doing such bright colours! I feel like mine are dark in comparison. Our colours are teal with brown, beige, white and green. Keeping it fairly neutral, but I'm hoping the teal will pop against the sand.

That sounds like so much fun! I really like that idea of keeping it to yourselves, like a special secret. Meh, it's just my family giving me the hassle. They've either been self-centered (one would not come unless she could get a suite), rude (not acknowledging the fact that we're getting married), or down right tacky (like my aunt who asked to invite some friends to the resort and not the wedding, and then pretty much implied that she's leaving my wedding right after dinner to hang out with her friends). In hindsight, I wish I hadn't invited them. But at least I know now who I want in my life after the wedding. What can you do. :S

Chiming in here, but I'm also feeling like this. We have all the major stuff done - venue, photographer, invites, my dress and last week we got his outfit. Our RSVP date is next weekend, so I'm waiting until then to get an idea of how many people might be coming. But honestly, I feel like I'm done everything - though I know I'm totally not! I might make a list of all the small things that I need to get/do, like decor, gifts, etc, just so I have it handy so I don't dawdle on getting things done closer to the date. But yeah, totally feeling the lack of enthusiasm. Plus, dealing with the drama from my relatives has made me so angry that I try not to think about wedding things afterwards.

I think it's absolutely rude to ask for a plus one. It puts the bride and groom in the awkward position of either giving in or saying no. I feel like because it's a destination wedding people don't feel that the same "etiquette" applies so they're just rude. Good for you on sticking to your guns. I'm going to do the same thing. Totally love this wording. I'm definitely going to go with this! Thanks so much! Ah, maybe. It'd be a pain to try and get the extra people there because we're getting married off resort. But we shall see! To be fair, it sounds like some of my family members want to leave the wedding early so I'm not too keen on asking their friends to join us for the dancing.

Hello everyone, I could use some advice for a dilemma we are currently having. For our wedding we only gave plus 1s to certain people: wedding party members (though the two that got plus 1s have been in a long term relationship anyways) and anyone who doesn't know anyone else in attendance (these people have all decided to come solo anyways). For those guests that know several people attending, whether they be friends or family, we did not give a plus 1 to. Our main reason for doing this is because we want our wedding to be an intimate affair with close family and friends. We're also on a tight budget and can't afford to pay for every guest to have a plus one. Recently we've had several people ask if they can bring dates. I'm leaning towards no, for the reasons described above. If all of the people that asked if they can bring dates to the wedding were allowed to, then 1/3 of the people attending would be "dates" (some guests want to bring friends, not partners) and we have never met any of these people before. So 1/3 of our wedding would be random people. The only compromise I see is allowing people to bring dates to the resort, but not the wedding. The resort is public so I can't very well say that people aren't allowed to go there. I feel like that would make us look rude though when those extra people get left behind at the resort on the wedding day. So what should we do? Stick to our guns and say no to dates? Allow dates to come to the resort but not wedding? Just allow these random people to come to the wedding anyways? I should note that the people that are asking if they can bring dates were going to be sharing a room at the resort with another guest, so they are paying the same amount for a room whether they share with a guest or share with their date. Thanks everyone!! I'd love to hear your opinions.

My reception shoe: I'll be wearing barefoot sandals for the ceremony.

Oh my goodness, you are so creative!! I love all your details, everything looks fantastic! I'm looking forward to seeing more, and learning more as well. Did you make your passport on Microsoft Publisher as well? They're so amazing. What sort of paper did you print them on? If you have a template for your passport books, would you mind sharing them with me? As well as the templates for your programs and your "so you're attending a wedding" brochure? [email protected]

Same here! Haha. Actually I think I'm just slightly more nervous that I won't feel well the day of and won't fully enjoy my wedding than standing up in front of everyone - though that is nerve-wracking as well.

We're also limited by our venue and our budget. When we sent out invites, they were for the wedding, not the actual week away. Most people did not get a plus 1 to the wedding - they only did if they knew no one else there at all. We understand that some people do not want to travel alone so if people want to bring friends to the resort that's fine, but at this time we cannot accommodate them at the wedding day event. If it's comes down to it and there's only 2 or 3 extra people, we'll probably say they can go to the wedding. But if there's 10+, we just can't do it for size reasons and budget.

We consulted with the people that were important and 100% had to be there. We moved our date back a week because my brother has final exams the whole week that we had originally chosen, and my fiance has a professional exam that could have been that week as well. So we were working around exam schedules. Depending on what type of schooling your fiance's sisters are in, they probably won't be able to miss their finals in order to go away for a week. At least with the university I went to, it isn't a valid reason to miss exams and they won't let you take them later. I took a week off from summer school classes in university to go away for a destination wedding, however I made an arrangement with the teacher to do my work and quizzes before I left. I don't think you need to consult anyone when it comes to choosing your date, however you have to be aware that some people - like your fiance's sisters - just might not be able to make it.

Sexy and I Know It by LMFAO. I think it'll be hilarious!

Great pictures!! You guys got some good variety too - some playful, some romantic. You two look so happy!

Thanks everyone!! I can't wait to actually wear the dress. Even my mom, who originally liked another dress more on me, is totally digging this dress. Now time to pick out some accessories.

That's pretty much it. It felt like a retail store where no one really cares if you're there or not. I went to pick up my dress and the girl at the cash desk was rude and pretty much just handed my dress to me. I had to ask to try it on. And then while I was trying it on, three different people asked if I needed alterations. It felt like because I had already bought my dress, no one cared to be pleasant to me, and then the only time the staff talked to me was to try and get more money from me. This is just my experience of course.

Congrats! I'm also getting married May of next year. We put down our deposit after Mayte confirmed our date was free. We sent $500 since we didn't have a quote done up at the time. I sent her pictures of what we wanted for decor in a Word doc. And it'll take a while to hear back from her, she's a busy lady.

My dress finally came in!! I picked it up on Sunday. It's a Vera Wang White from David's Bridal in Scarborough. I love love love the dress. I'm so glad I went the distance to try it on in the first place. My experience at David's Bridal was crappy though so I won't be going there for anything else.

I think we're doing a "wish bowl." We'll read the wishes on our first anniversary.

May 28, 2013 - Jellyfish Restaurant