Tanks for your advice ladies, it has been hard and gets worse all the time. Trina and Amber both argue with me about the reason they should be a moh, even though I have said that I want them all to be a bm so it's fair. They both say it's stupid that I won't choose one and that I have to pick, I am really hating this whole thing more and more. Erin is the only one who tells me it's our day and that what matters and that I should do what I want.