I know that we told everyone that if people couldnt come, then they couldnt come I mean I knew that there were going to be people that couldnt come, and I was ok with that, but nonetheless like I said there are people that havent spoken to us since and there are people that we have seen that just havent brought up the wedding at all its pretty comical (I was originally annoyed but given up that feeling) Like I keep saying the people that want to be there will, and on the wedding day I am sure that I wont even think about the people that arent there! But that is the biggest reason that we arent having a AHR I think that it takes away from the people that spent the money and made the commitment to come!