I can empathize with you all as well. I feel guilty about the money people will spend, but I think about all the weddings I traveled to -- some DWs and some just because the location was far from where I live. And I have spent a lot of $$ on these past weddings. I know half these people won't come. I have been a bridesmaid 10+ times and I chose not to have any bridesmaids at all, thinking that would be easier on my friends moneywise. We still have 5 months so no official excuses yet, but we'll see. On the bright side, I think planning it with the wedding community in RM has been a wonderful experience so far. We all need to focus on our day and pending marriages. Stop the guilt and don't feel like your wedding is an imposition on others (easier said than done I know). It's sad when others don't share our excitement but be truly grateful for those that do.