EXACTLY! If I bring up anything about helping my one friend out who lost her job this year, my mom is like, "well you can put her up at the caribe..." UM, no I'm sorry I want to be able to see my friends just like you. My dad said he will pay for my aunt and cousin...their airfare and hotel...at the nicer hotel! This is the aunt that never bothered to call me on my birthday or send me a gift my entire life, but SURE why not? Let's send her to a 5 star hotel on my wedding budget! So frustrating...