I agree, when you're having a destination wedding and parents are already paying for their air and accommodation I budgeted myself to pay for the whole thing ourselves. Then everything that is contributed is a great surprise and you don't end up having a more extravagant wedding than you independently would just because it's on someone else's dollar. We lucked out and my Mom has offered to pay for the wedding package and my dress, while my boyfriend's parents pitched in and are paying for a base room for us and my Dad has given us money towards our honeymoon. All of that has really afforded us some financial freedom leading up to the wedding which has been great.