So after looking at venues near us and realizing that we would be spending more $$ than we hoped on the type of wedding we would want, we decided to look into a cruise wedding and see if it really would be any cheaper. It seems to us, it would be MUCH cheaper, so much so that we could afford to pay for some guests cruise fare and still be under our budget which would be magical to us (assuming my math is right!) How do we handle paying the fare for some of but not everyone's fare? we thought we'd pay for the cruise, the airfare would their responsibility and pay for the cheapest cabin, they can pay to upgrade if they desire. My FI says we cannot afford to pay for the families with kids, only the adult fares (which i could be ok with, but we have children so I would want some kids there for them). Some people need the help more than others but if we pay for say 1 cousin and husband, but their sibling and husband can afford it, isn't that not fair? Or pay for 1 aunt and uncle but not another? We could also leave from a port nearer to us so we do not need to take a plane, but the cruise fare would go up and we wouldn't be able to cover all of the cost of the cruise for the same number of people. Only close friends and family make the paid list and we would want to be sure they know we plan to help with that, but how would we address or handle it? I'm sure you don't put something in their invitation -- should I call them individually after invitations have been received? Also, I can see 1 aunt forfeiting her and the uncle's spot to allow the 2 grandkids to go with her son & wife, but we wouldn't want to allocate the money to those kids if we're not helping any others (no offense), but rather another adult family member or friend. any advise?
So after looking at venues near us and realizing that we would be spending more $$ than we hoped on the type of wedding we would want, we decided to look into a cruise wedding and see if it really would be any cheaper. It seems to us, it would be MUCH cheaper, so much so that we could afford to pay for some guests cruise fare and still be under our budget which would be magical to us (assuming my math is right!) How do we handle paying the fare for some of but not everyone's fare? we thought we'd pay for the cruise, the airfare would their responsibility and pay for the cheapest cabin, they can pay to upgrade if they desire. My FI says we cannot afford to pay for the families with kids, only the adult fares (which i could be ok with, but we have children so I would want some kids there for them). Some people need the help more than others but if we pay for say 1 cousin and husband, but their sibling and husband can afford it, isn't that not fair? Or pay for 1 aunt and uncle but not another? We could also leave from a port nearer to us so we do not need to take a plane, but the cruise fare would go up and we wouldn't be able to cover all of the cost of the cruise for the same number of people. Only close friends and family make the paid list and we would want to be sure they know we plan to help with that, but how would we address or handle it? I'm sure you don't put something in their invitation -- should I call them individually after invitations have been received? Also, I can see 1 aunt forfeiting her and the uncle's spot to allow the 2 grandkids to go with her son & wife, but we wouldn't want to allocate the money to those kids if we're not helping any others (no offense), but rather another adult family member or friend. any advise?