jmastr05 - thanks for the suggestion! We have been going back and forth between a symbolic and legal ceremony, and i think we have finally decided to get legally married at home first..mostly just to save the hassle of getting married in mexico (the idea of bloodwork in mexico kinda freaks me out:) I think we may just have my nana (who wont be able to attend the wedding) and my parents (as my inlaws are 10 hrs away) no dress or exchanging rings as i still want my DW to be my actually wedding day(in our hearts) but to have that moment with my nana i think she will love. In terms of telling people i think we will tell a few close people but otherwise keep it to ourselves as i dont want anyone to feel cheated, or that they are spending money when we are already married. Peach- i am so sorry that you couldnt do it this way, if you feel it would be meaningful to you. I totally get the church thing! Good for you for doing a DW in the first place and doing what you want:)