We got married on May 8 and our AHR was May 26 (Memorial Day weekend). Pros to this, we got all wedding events finished by the end of the month and it was a huge relief to be finished. But we were also making sure final deposits were in as we were traveling to our honeymoon and when we got back. We did a cookout reception. They wore casual clothes and we wore our wedding clothes the whole time (wasn't planned that way) but people had a great time. I say have it closer rather than farther away from the time. By that time you will just want to be married and enjoy your life and not want to worry about accomadating others.