We're changing up the wording alot, but we're doing the love letter ceremony http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com/ceremonylovebox.html Neither of us are big wine drinkers, so we're skipping that part... but we're each writing a letter to each other and we're having our bridal party and parents do the same. Then we're locking those into the box... the idea being that it will stay closed until our 5th wedding anniversary, or if we find our relationship in trouble then we open the box to read the letters early.