Congrat!!! It's your day so do as you please... We are legally getting married before our DW so family members who can't come will still be there for our legal marriage
Don't know how one of my friend will react when I'll tell her that she's not in the wedding party... we are not that close anymore... I was a bridesmaid at her wedding but stil wondering why...
You love the dress... go for it... Everybody are telling me "It's your day, so do what make you and FI happy"... Make sure that in 20 years, when you'll look at your pics you won't regret the OTHER dress... BTW you look gorgeous!!!