you cant win either way you look at it.. there will always be someone upset.. i am in the EXACT same position.. and yet WE DONT EVEN HAVE A DATE YET!!! everyone and their mother makes me feel like crap that i want to consider doing a destination wedding.. they feel it is selfish that i would make someone pay to come to my wedding.. also i thought this would be fun.. when i was growing up we never went on family vacations.. heck my parents NEVER had a honeymoon, they just bought a house instead.. i look at weddings where i live.. and just for the church it is about 1700 bucks.. and i love the church, but then you got the hall, min 200 people with 25 bucks a plate.. yeah that is wayyyyyyy pricey.. this is my first marriage and his second.. his sister got offered 10000 bucks for her wedding.. they didnt have to pay for anything, not their engagement rings, the wedding bands, the dj, the dress NOTHING!!!! yet i get jack squat for ours! i am not really mad, i dont want people to dictate my wedding, but come on! if i had 10000 bucks i could make everything myself and spend about 5000! and have a honeymoon in there. i thought this destination wedding thing was a good idea.. but with all the family drama i am not sure it is worth it anymore. we havent even set a date yet, and people are just upset already.. i have heard people are disappointed, that i should do what i want, it is my wedding.. yet i get no support at all.. i just want to run away and get married, but at the same time i want my father to walk me down the aisle. idk i thought i was doing a great thing... but apparently what i want at my wedding truely doesnt matter at the moment.. and ohhh dont even get me started on my sister in law.. and her NOT standing up in our wedding.. that is another chapter.. man i could go on for hours!