I am having one too. I think its fun and part of being a bride (to me that is) is going thorugh all these fun events leading up to your big day (shower, bach, wedding). I agree with what other people said too, some pple cant make our destination wedding (we are not doing AHR) so they want to celebrate our wedding with us. My mom and sister are throwing it (& paying for it) I wouldnt expect my bridesmaids to especially since they are all travelling to Mexico. We also registred with honeyfund (we have been together 7 years and have most of the stuff we need already) that way people can give as little or as much as they way or nothing at all just celebrate with us!!