Mrsktobe

Thanks ladies for the advice.. I had a major b*tch fest to my MOH about all of this and I am feeling better, combined with venting to you guys. I gave the rest of the bridesmaids timelines, so crossing my fingers they adhere to them - One of them apologized and is ordering it in the next few weeks, the other two have ignored me, so we will see what happens with that. I am going to see the two that ignored me at our shower/stag my parents are hosting here in a few weeks, so we will see what they say or how their attitude is. I'm not going to be a cow however if they are giving me attitude then, I am going to politely tell them how much stress they are causing me. Calgarybride, I agree. We didn't even receive replies from half of the people we invited - I know they are the older crowd and we didn't expect them to make it but still, please RSVP. even with some of the younger people - I just don't get it. Most of these people have been married before, like c'mon you know how it is tracking down RSVP's! Oh well. Our RSVP deadline is coming this Monday, even though we have our final numbers in, I will be surprised If people save it till the last minute!

I haven't had the experience of bringing them on yet (3 months to go!) but I will be spreading them around my mom's, MIL and aunties luggage. We have 55 people confirmed and 55 bubba kegs, so in the checked baggage we will be putting 8-10 in one bag. We are flying with air transat, so we upgraded for the extra baggage allowance, which helps.

We got them both priced out (may be different cause our wedding is off the resort) but the churro cart came in around 200.00 and the mariachi was 450-500 with travel fees. However with Mariachi, the resort may contract some people out, so you could get it for cheaper or the same.

I'm unsure if any of the resorts will let you have a reception til; 2:00 am.. this is one of the main reasons we are having our reception off the resort as all the resorts I looked at (and there were quite a few) had it ending at 10:30, 11:00. Those three resorts you are looking at all are small enough that it's not going to be too spread out (Unlike mine, which is the Bahia property.. talk about Mega resort!) The pool seat thing happens unfortunately.. sometimes places enforce it, other times they don't. I would do some research on here and see what other people have said.

I have not but that is a cool idea! I wouldn't organize anything too crazy or that takes up tons of time cause lots of people like to relax, read a book, watch a movie on the flight and just chill - If you have something people are going to feel obligated to do that takes up a ton of time, people may get annoyed - I know I would as I like to chill when I am in the air and just relax as much as I can do. Maybe do a mad lib? Or a game that can be passed along from one person to the next so the time in between still allows people time to themselves?

Just wanted to chime in that I ordered and got those stickers too and they are well worth it ladies!

look up the app my wedding party. You can download the app on iphone or on android or direct them to a website

I was about to suggest the same. Check out the dessy website.

Vegasbride, thank you It means a lot. I feel like I am all alone in this really - my MOH works shift work and can never come to anything, my supportive bridesmaids live far away in different time zones. My MIL is non-existent except when she wants to stir up trouble, she is one of these "Oh I care" and then when you ask her to help, she complains but yet when the big day comes, she will take credit for everything (she loves to lie about how much she helps out her son and I) I literally have only had my mom and my sister in law who have been supportive. My fiancé is, but his best man is currently living with us as he is working in town and with the extra testosterone in the house, I can't talk to him without his best man injecting his opinion into everything on how we should live our lives (Plus his wife is one of my bridesmaids who has not ordered her dress yet and has given me attitude) As you can see - I have had a fun go at it. But I've realized that I need to have the attitude that no one cares and just put my big girl panties on and suck it up.

Vegasbride, I have realized that as well. Which is why with everything else I have tried to let go and just expect nothing. Just frusturating when there is only one thing for them to do. Not like we are all early twenties or anything, we are all pushing 30 in a year.

Thank you ladies. I am at work today and I have to keep it together obviously cause I am a professional and I am in HR but I am so frustrated. If I was one of the first one's to get married, I would be understandable or if we still had quite a bit of time to go - I told the girls way back in March what dress it was, the color and everything. They have been in my shoes and they have been a bridesmaid before - I don't know why it's so hard just to order something. I know I am the organized one in our group of friends and I don't mind doing a lot of things on my own but this dress thing is ONE thing. That's it.

Thank you kindly for the advice - I just sent them a message asking them to please order them by Sept 15th (which is 7 weeks before the wedding) Sucks you know how I feel - the kicker is both of these ladies have had a wedding before and know the stress but don't really care as far as ordering them. Last thing I want to come across as is a bridezilla but man, with less than 3 months to go and with the dress taking a month or so to come in, they are cutting it down to the wire.

Sorry - should of given a little more information. They know the style, they know the color - I gave them the choice of picking whatever one they wanted, it doesn't bother me if they all are different styles or if 3-4 of them have long ones or 3-4 have short ones. They all have the money to buy them. and the time, they are all well established in their careers. They haven't had to pay for anything except for their trip. I paid for all of their hair, my parents are putting on a joint shower for my fiancé and I (and half of them can't make it to that) The bachelorette is in Mexico and they don't have to pony up anything for as it's going to be on the resort because no one has time to throw me one here so I am essentially planning my own bachelorette as none of the girls have been to Mexico before and don't know the area. Good idea about the deadline though - I am going to do that. Thanks for taking the time out to reply - I appreciate it. I am having an uber frustrating day

Here is mine, hopefully they come out a little larger. Let me know if they don't, I will reattach them. I attached our luggage tags as well, they are going in clear luggage tag holders

HOW HARD IS IT! YOU HAVE ONE JOB.. ORDER YOUR DRESS. THAT'S IT. I haven't asked them to do anything else. Then I get attitude when I ask. I haven't asked my bridesmaids to do anything. Nothing. Just order your dress. One is excused because she lives in England and her father is dying.. of course I understand The other three have no excuse. I'm just pissy, hormonal and angry today. I have had NO help from them at all and I ask to do one thing, ONE thing and they can't. Rant over.

I don't have a picture but the groomsmen are wearing linen sand colored pants, white dress shirts with a mint tie. We are currently trying to find suspenders as well for them but it's easier said then done. My FI will be wearing the same as the guys except with a vest

Hmmm. Ours is a little different as we are staying on a resort but having our ceremony/reception off the resort at a beach club. I would say the hidden costs for us were the following - Cake - off the resort for 55 people, that adds up - Lighting for our venue, as it's a rustic beach location - Miniscule décor I can't bring down like a gazebo

Hahaha. Yep. Good thing it is an all inclusive.

Thanks Ladies. I was feeling upset about it but thought maybe I was being too sensitive but it's nice to know I have a reason to be upset. Good news is they are only there for a week and we are there for two weeks, so they will be gone before you know it if sh*t happens. Now just to worry about my MIL attacking my SIL who is my photographer.. good ol' family drama... but that's another story I think I'm going to need a lot of vodka to get through parts of this wedding week LOL.

Thanks ladies. We do have an excess of seats left, so like you said, it was ok - the cut off date is this weekend and we have 5 seats left after they took 7 and only have 4 maybe's, so at least we have enough seats. I'm just upset she didn't check with me before inviting her ENTIRE family. Didn't call me or FB me or anything. the only reason I knew was because my TA was like "Ummm.. do you know so and so WHOLE extended family is coming?" Like what the F! Ughh.. oh well. Bigger things to worry about I guess - just frustrating as her sister is a wild card as far as her attitude goes - I just don't want her bad attitude ruining our trip. I know it's a big resort but my friend is the type of person she will invite her family to EVERYTHING and then when I say something, she will get upset. At least we are getting married OFF the resort and her family can't crash our wedding. There's a plus.

Hey! I am going barefoot for when I walk down the aisle, as I am klutz and even if I wear flip flops on the sand, I will probably trip over them. The sand is only a little rough when you first get on it from the path and after that it's soft. You should be fine. 1:00 pm will be SUPER hot. The other stuff the other brides can speak to as I'm not sure and as you know since we have been talking, I'm not getting married on the resort. However, as far as picture time, I would start your pictures around 3:30 or so if you want it to be a little cooler or want the nice sunset ish ones. The sun sets around 5:15 in November (it's 5:15 for us on the 11th) so we are taking photos from 4:30-5:15 and doing couple photos a few days later, as his sister is our photographer. Maybe do all the group ones after the ceremony so people can go after and then come back for when your reception starts? That way you can do all the sunset ones just with the two of you

Thanks. That's the way I am feeling about it. Honestly - and I hope this doesn't come off Bridezilla because I am the furthest thing away from one - I just hope they stay out of our way for the first few days before the wedding. Her parents are wonderful people and are fun to hang out with but her sister can be a completely different story. I totally get the whole family vacation thing - Just pissed off cause her sister is known for having a completely bad attitude and I am going to be PISSED If she is around everyone with her bad attitude when she wasn't even invited in the first place. I don't need the stress of people being shitty people when I didn't even invite them when I already am worried about some family members causing drama (there is major drama on my in laws side .. *face palm*) Weddings. Bringing people together and bringing out the drama since the age of man LOL.

They do offer alternatives for sure, I believe one of them is the Tequila Mexican restaurant. Since you are staying at Coba, I've seen weddings at two of the pools. You can have it around the Jacuzzi pools or around the quiet pool. I would suggest having your dinner/dance at the hotel you are staying at so if people need to jet back to their room to use the washroom or grab something or even just go to bed, they are able to. It worked great for a few weddings we saw the last time we were there. I agree on the infant thing, I found that silly. Fortunately, the venue we chose (off the resort) doesn't charge babies lol.

So a friend of mine was invited to the wedding - she isn't in the bridal party but she was in the group of friends of mine growing up. She was invited and her husband was invited. She had mentioned that it might of been her mom and her coming, as her husband works out of town. Turns out they phoned my travel agent and herself, her husband, her parents and her sister and her wife plus kid are all coming now and took 7 spots off of our trip. I'm not mad about the spots because everyone mostly had booked already and she knows they aren't invited to the wedding - however she didn't even ask. So now her whole family is coming - I get that they want to make a vacation out of it, totally - I'm just upset she didn't even ask. Her parents, her sister and wife are not invited to our wedding, what if someone else needed those spots? Of course my T.A called me because they weren't on the list and I told her to go ahead but... ARGHHH!!

What are you looking for in a resort? Space, reception location.. etc. If you can give me some more details I can try and help!