Mrsktobe

I have had the same issues with mine and all I can say is hang in there. I would just decide on some and tell them they either get the dress or they aren't apart of your wedding. I haven't asked my BM to do anything really at all and when some of them gave me trouble about getting the dress, I got pretty upset (there is a thread about it in venting on here) because I wasn't asking much. I wouldn't tell them straight out to sh*t or get off the pot but I would narrow it down to a certain dress and color and then tell them that's it, if they don't like it, they can bow out. Check our donna morgan dresses. Those are the ones I chose for my girls and I just picked a color and let the girls order whatever color they wanted

Here's mine, just got it on Thursday. Still have to get alterations done next month but I am in love with it. Funny thing too, I was walking around the store with it on and this mom commented on how her daughter should try it on and the girl comes out and is like "I want to try that on" ended up getting the same dress ha ha. She was getting married in Cuba this January, so she might even be on here lol!

I'm doing the same, so I will let you know how I make out!

I booked MVP and they have been a dream to communicate with so far. They are on the pricy side but with the pictures and everything, they are worth it in my opinion. You only get married once and have those pictures for life, so for me, it was worth it to book them. However, they weren't allowed on my resort (Bahia principe are kind of sticklers with outside vendors) so I had to get a hotel room in nearby Akumal bay for them to do our hair and makeup. However, Edgar (who runs the business side of MVP) knows which resorts allow them and which don't. Good luck with whomever you choose

Thank you ladies. It's nice to have an outlet on here when I can vent and have other woman support & offer advice. It really means a lot. I'm going to take your advice and sit down with him over what costs went where so he can see and then go from there. Hopefully it goes well.

Kat, you hit the nail on the head - that is what it has been. I have discussed everything with him and we have talked about it but now he is freaking out - most definitely like you said, probably because he didn't keep a running tally. It's not like we are having some grand, crazy event. We had to get lighting, a DJ, food & alcohol, outfits for our attendants, flowers etc. I only really splurged on the hair and makeup and even then, that cost got out of hand because then his mom wanted her makeup and hair done and blah blah and I ended up paying for EVERYONE'S. I have been really trying to cut costs and penny pinch where I can. We cut things like a Mariachi band and late night snack (ordering pizza instead!) and cut things like flowers and other décor. Honestly, like I have told him before, yes we went over budget but now when I look at what we were going to pay at the Bahia to what we are going to pay at our off site venue, 3500 more dollars for 5 extra hours? Not bad. We both have been paying cash for all of the wedding things - which I think is why he is fretting. He grew up with parents who argued about money, so he hoards it and protects it. So when I came home with what *I* had left to pay (4000) he got all stressed and then went into all this wedding grief. It really hurts and pisses me off (and I told him this yesterday) that he gets upset and angry about it when I have been paying half my way through the wedding stuff when I make half what he makes. But I am going to discuss with him tonight. Wish me luck

Thanks ladies. Reading these responses is making me feel better. I have been keeping him informed the whole time about what everything has been costing. And we have made decisions together about what to do (lighting, DJ) I have been doing a lot of stuff on the cheap for décor or making stuff myself too. What really added to our budget honestly was the hair and makeup that I ended up paying for all the girls (drama with bridesmaids and his mom) and what he paid for his groomsmen outfits. Once again, made these decisions together. I ended up totaling everything he has paid for versus what I paid and added it up and then I totaled what it would of cost at the Bahia and added that up so he could see. We will see how this goes tonight. As far as going through elimating stuff, we are already so close and have paid the deposits and what not. I'm just upset because I have been keeping him in the loop with costs the entire time and asking him what he thinks and what not and then he pulls this crap. It's hurtful. especially when he calls it MY wedding. Ughh..

I spoke with my mom this morning and she says it's normal but I am feeling like the biggest piece of crap right now. We got into a "discussion" about the wedding costs yesterday. He is upset that it's cost this much and says he would of been happier just going to a justice of the peace and that this is "MY" wedding not his. We were going to get married at the Bahia Principe but as we didn't like the limitations they had for hours and what not, we went off the resort. Of course we went over budget, everyone does unless you are penny pitching. and now he is upset that it's cost us 21000 for the wedding (including our trip down there for 2 weeks in there) I budgeted what it would of cost for the Bahia and it would of cost us $17,335.00 when all was said and done for everything we wanted to do. (sit down dinner he wanted, there was no budging on that, hair and makeup.. groomsmen outfits here at home, favors included in that etc). So honestly, only 3000 cheaper for less time (ceremony & 6-11:00 reception, whereas off site we have the place from 4 pm till 2:00 am.. 5 hours versus 10 hours) Everything we have done for the wedding (bubba kegs for guests, décor) we have discussed. I just don't get it. He has all the opportunity to bring up how he feels regarding this and now he is making me feel like the biggest piece in the world. AND it's not like he is paying for it all. when all is said and done, he will have put 11,000 into it and I would of put 10,000. Anyone having issues or arguments with their spouse? I feel like I am alone on this.

Hi ladies! I was going to wait to post this until they were all done but I know there are quite a few of us getting married this fall, so I thought I would share it now and we can all update each other as we finish it Thanks to quite a few ladies on this board.. Rach220, Deniden, Ayita, & a few others...thank you so much for sharing all of your information with all of ladies, it really helps us out! I took bits and pieces, added my own and now we have what you see here in our welcome book Obviously you will have to change the information but it's a start! The plan is to take the stuff to the printers and get it printed out (as I have 25-30 to print out) and then print out the cover on card stock in our wedding colors (mint or navy). I won't be putting them together till October 3rd when my small army of ladies come down to help me with things but I will make sure I update - I look forward to seeing everyone elses! Anyway.. enjoy! PS - I created it so you print it out front and back on one sheet of paper, so the corresponding numbers (which you can cut out) show what page it is. That way when it's cut out, you have the pages in order.. if that makes sense. Ultimately laying the pages on top of one another so the pages go 1-20. Also, I saw some really good advice on another thread on here about removing the lines when you go to print as the template doesn't match up completely (I tried playing with margins.. no go) So just make sure you remove the page lines before you print and you should be golden! L & R Welcome Book Template for BDW.ppt

First pick up Bringing it to the lady in Okotoks next week to start alterations I agree. So much to do but I have to wait till my bridesmaids come down in October to do some of it as I need a small army. Just finishing paying off deposits and stuff now and getting things together.. I can't believe how fast the time is going, it's crazy really.

I created a welcome book that I was going to share on here when I was done it, made up of some of the templates on here with some of my own tweaks (which won't be till October as I have to take it to the printers, etc) but I can send you a template of that. You will have to change the information and everything but I can send it to you this week Have to wait for the drives at work to go back online as we have been having server issues but once that is done, I will send it your way!

We didn't even send out invites as time was of the essence (engaged in February, married this November coming up) so we just did casual save the dates off of vistaprint.com and sent those out by the first week in March. However, I spent ALOT of time on our wedding website and put a sh*t ton of information on there and really went the extra mile on creating it and building it from scratch - and we included that on our save the dates. Wix is absolutely wonderful for building websites!

I know!! I am getting excited.. and slightly panicked. I feel like I have so much to do still LOL. Which I am sure I am over dramatizing as I am a Type A, organized crazy lady. I go pick up my dress this Thursday!!

chocolate and cream cheese with mint icing

The rest of the ladies here gave you sound advice so I am not going to repeat what they said, I just wanted to pop in and say I hope it all works out whichever way it goes. It's sad that things like weddings make peoples true colors come out. But you have many other positives to focus on and it sounds like you are in a better place regarding this. Good Luck

I hope with my answer that I understood what you were asking, so if I am off base here let me know. The thing with waiting on the WC to get prices for you from the Venue is that they can often negotiate better prices or options for you. You could try and negotiate on your own but as the wedding coordinators in the Mayan know the vendors often personally and deal with them quite a bit, they can negotiate on some things. Also, I have never heard of a wedding coordinator putting a "percentage" on top of the venue price. The venue we ended up going with was the same price as on their website but our wonderful coordinator was able to negotiate us bringing on our own late night snack and better deals on some of the vendors. Also, with the wedding coordinator coordinating with all of the vendors and venue you use, they all know her and are used to dealing with her, so things run more smoothly the day of. Our super star coordinator Joyce has been communicating with the vendors as well as us, so when the big day happens here in a few months time, they know what is expected of her and what her standard is

I debated having one of my girlfriends do my hair & makeup but as this is one of the most important days of our lives which we will look back on for years and years, I decided to splurge and get my makeup professionally done. However, there are other things that maybe other ladies deem important that I didn't get or didn't splurge on, so it was a tit for tat for me.

I didn't either. But planning this wedding there are a lot of things I didn't expect to pay so much for - *sigh* the joys of planning weddings

I LOVE the one that we chose, she has been amazing and takes care of everything for us. it's 260.00 but that's for ALL the fees and she takes care of getting everything in order, filing it and doing all of that so we don't have anything to worry about (which is awesome because we have enough on our plate as it is!) www.weddingsbytamara.com Worth a try ladies

Counting my blessings and forgetting all the drama going on right now. I had a negative nancy past month and I refuse to let the last little bit go by here continuing to be negative

it's 11 weeks for us till the wedding date now, it's going so fast!!

I booked MVP makeup and artistry. My resort won't allow outside vendors on, so I got a hotel room in Akumal for the morning of the wedding and we are getting our hair done there. I know they have various prices depending if Melissa does it or someone from her team but I am extremely impressed with their work and splurged. Worth a try to check out.

I feel for you my dear, I really do. The same sort of thing happened to me (on top of the bridesmaid dress drama too if you can believe). I invited my friend to come, just her and her husband and then all of a sudden I get a call from my TA asking me if it's ok that they take 7 seats. So she invited her mom, dad, sister, sister's wife and daughter along for a family vacation (aka they are paying for her and her husband) I was peeved she didn't say anything (not that it was a family vacation but that she didn't even ask about the seats that were on reserve) but let it go as most people had booked already.. THEN, she tells me at our engagement party that her husband can't make it anymore, so her mother in law is coming to Mexico. Whatever, not a big deal. Hear from my friend that she is planning on bringing her mother in law as her date for our wedding reception. So I questioned her on it because, maybe this makes me a bridezilla but I do not want a stranger I do not know at my wedding. Especially when we had to cut the guest list as is. Obviously it's different if it was a husband I had not met or she knew NOONE at our wedding. However, our whole group of friends will be there and it's one night. So I put down my foot and told her she either has to come by herself, or bring her mom(who we all know) but that her mother in law is not allowed. Anyway - wanted to share my story to show that you are not alone in this. I don't get where people get off on making it all about themselves. I get that people want to make it a family vacation, they should be allowed to but the rightful thing it to ask.

Looks great!! and I have to say a big thank you, we were looking for suspenders for the groomsmen and couldn't find anything we like up here and thanks to you, that website is going to be a big help! Really appreciate it

Some of the girls have been getting theirs within a week, which is all fine and dandy but the moral of the story is, don't give me attitude when that's the only thing I have asked of you. It's disappointing really.