Wow! Those are a lot of confessions. I had a similar situation w/ a friend of mine. We are no longer friends now; more like enemies, but I am just fine with that because she was a downer! She hardly ever added to my enjoyment in life and was not a good friend. If I could go back and end the friendship over again......I would have completely ignored her and just let it die out. My fiance has told me several times that sometimes talking about things just make it worse and he was right. I tried telling her that I needed time and that just made her mad at me. Anyways, to the point, I don't think there is anything wrong with not being friends with her anymore. Friends are supposed to add to your life, be nice to you, and not make you feel bad about what you do with your time. You are at a completely different place than her and you are happy. She should be happy for you and appreciate the time that you two do have, when you have it. About the cleaning situation: I'm kinda like that too. What I try to do and sometimes fail miserably at, is to clean as we go. So if I'm headed upstairs I look around to see if there is anything that I can bring that belongs up there and not downstairs. Also have you talked to your husband about how you feel about the house not being clean? Maybe if he knows how stressed out it makes you he may make an extra effort to helpout or atleast clean up after himself....? Good Luck! :-)