My mom is planning a shower. She didn't ask me if I wanted one, which I don't. But it is tradition and you are right, relatives/friends that are not coming to the DW may want to opportunity to give you a gift, words of wisdom, or just celebrate. This is the same for our Jack and Jill. Some ppl think that we should have one because we are going away, but lets face it, going away does not always mean saving money. We are still going to have the 200+ ppl at our AHR, which is a huge expense. I told me family and friends that I am not planning a jack and jill, but apparently they are anyways.