Ack! This is just the post for me. My FH has a HUGE catholic family, so they've convinced me to throw an AHR when we get back from our DW in Italy. Initially I didn't care to do it, but once I started planning all the stuff I wouldn't get to do with my DW, I got psyched. And now the general un-enthusiasm has been seeping in from the family members--they all want to skip it because it's not the "real" wedding! So, because you don't get to sit through a 7 1/2 minute ceremony, it isn't REAL?? My FMIL isn't even coming