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WOW! Good for you!!! That is so awesome that you stood up to her! Even better that you were able to do it with your FI sitting there watching! Mine happens to be oh so protective of his mom so I know I'd never get away with talking to her like that - LOL - but then again if he saw with his own eyes how much of a biatch she was being - might be a different story. Lol. But then i would make him stand up to her - ha ha Still though - congrats. Sounds like you made some awesome progress..and definitely put her in her place! Yay! Hopefully she'll CHILL now with the rest of the wedding planning and make things easier for you. Now you'll have to see if you can get the rest of his family to come around - hopefully there's no ireparable (sp) damage!

Ahhh - so thankful for the 'rents!

Yes! So true! Whatever will be - will be There's a few that have said upfront that they can't commit right now - but maybe see how things are in the new year. Totally cool with me. I'll joke around and drop little hints like "Wow, Paityn will be 3 by then - perfect for my flower girl! hint hint' - but they know i'm just buggin and there's no pressure What i like about those people is that they haven't fed me any BS. They literally said - 'We'd love to go - but can't make guarantees'. Hey - fine by me- thats all I ask! Just the fact that they say they WANT to be there is enough to put a smile on my face! And yes - you're SO right - 30 people booked (committed) back in April of this year! Which was like 20 months out from the wedding! So it helps to focus on that - and realize how many people there are who TRULY care about this wedding- - SO much that they're commiting that early. My FI and I were SHOCKED - and honored to see such a huge response! So ya- focusing on that more and more - rather than the negative nelly's!

oh ya- u can say that again! still got another 16 months till the wedding! oy - thank god my parents are helping out with the finances!

Well - see thats what upset me to begin with - because she said she'd come even if it was without her hubby (like bring a gf and then she's only paying for herself) - but when she told me she wasnt coming she said 'I can't go to Mexico without my husband!- not fair to him'...and because her parents are donkeys (in my opinion) - and won't take their kids for more than 2 nights (give me a break - but whatev - can't judge). His family isn't an option as they aren't here. So ya...its fine..I'm not going to push - I know 5 grand is a lot of money - I'm just more upset at the fact that she basically promised she's be there no matter what and that 'promise' was a bunch of BS. Oh well. I'm focusing on the positive - there are 30 people booked! WAY more than we expected anyway - so we're happy!

i think either pink gerbera daisies - or pink roses? oh! or pink star gazer lilies!

Not sure about the flowers - I didn't really like the ones Jazmin sent - course it doesnt help that those pics look like they're from 1980! ha ha I'll be sending Jazmin a pic of the bouquets I want - and if she can't do them - I'll just use the florist I found in PDC I've put my deposit down for Styling Trio Riviera to do my hair and makeup - I've heard mixed reviews about the salon at the resort and i really dont want to take any chances. Meanwhile - I'll be getting some trials done here at home and take pictures - to send down As for the cake- I think i'll be upgrading to a larger cake - because its still quite small..and i'll be keeping the mini desserts that come with the buffet menu! Very interesting about the skeeters. i was there in Jan 2010 and didn't get bit at all. My parents will be heading down this November so I'll ask them to take note - as my wedding will be the same time next year.

Never apologize for venting - thats what this forum is for - because I know my FI is already sick of hearing me vent about my wedding woes. LOL Best thing is - we can ALL relate You're right - you do really find out who your real friends are in situations like this. I had one of my oldest best friends tell me from the get-go "I will make sure I'm at that wedding - I'd do whatever it takes!"...yet when it was time to book - she retreated bigtime saying they couldn't afford it. Which is fair to some degree - cuz it would cost them about $5000 for the 4 of them to go - but I really wish she didn't guarantee me she'd be there. I got my hopes up and it was a huge let down. She said she felt bad - and of course I couldn't be angry at her - it was just a huge let down. Don't make promises you can't keep!

Thanks Countrybride! Well said! I'm starting to develop the 'i don't care' attitude...and if they have an issue - they'll just have to get over it!

GREAT ideas ladies! I'm havin trouble deciding what to do. Either I swallow the cost of bringing my own down (extra weight) or I swallow the cost of what the resort will charge. It won't be horrible as I'll only have 5-6 guest tables - but its still more $ adding and adding and adding! LOL

Wow - Peach - don't downplay what you're going through. I would be heartbroken too if that was my mom. But on the other hand my mom and I are quite close. Even still - your mom is your mom and it still stings when she shows little or no interest in something that is special to you..whether it be your engagement..or wedding..etc. I feel so bad for you - but glad you came here to vent. We ALL need it if we're going to keep our cools till the big day! Chin up! Focus on the people who do care about your wedding...and feel the slight satisfaction that they'll all feel some sort of guilt when the day actually arrives.

WOW - unreal! I gotta say...u got balls girl! good for you even standing up to your FI! SO GLAD he saw the light. It truly sucks having to put someone in the position of choosing between his family and you - but if it has to be done - so be it. You are his FUTURE. Whats worse is that its his family in fact thats causing all the toxicity! I'm so glad you guys were able to come back together. Makes me also very thankful that my family isn't coming between my FI and I. I can't imagine how that would effect things. That is so unfortunate with your friends wedding. So sad they didnt make amends..but what is sadder is that none of us would even be put into this situation if people would just RESPECT the fact that its NOT their wedding. People may not like our choices - but no one is FORCING them to participate either. Thats partially why I told my dad to hold his tongue for now - because the last thing we want or need right now is for the $hit to hit the fan and have a big blow out which could actually end up in people on non-speaking terms. Id rather just swallow my frustrations in their presence and vent on here - if it keeps the peace (even if its fake peace) until this wedding is overwith. I think if people would just look at the bigger picture and realize that creating animosity between family members over a wedding - just isnt worth it. You're right - lift is too short to create bad blood!

WOW! and I thought I had it bad. U take the cake for sure. My family is just making sour remarks here and there..and the ones that can't come because of $ - are genuinely financially incapable. But I knew that before we even announced the wedding so we were fine with that. But to have people who DO have the money and are STILL refusing to come! I'm sorry but WTF!?!?! That is absolutely horrible!!! I feel sooo bad for you two. But I think you've handled yourselves very well. If it were me...and they were acting out like that..I'd be like..."Well if you want us to have a wedding here THAT bad..then you can contribute financially or mind your own business!!" Geeeezus! I'd be in the SAME mentality as you with regards to the invites too! I'd be sending them out no matter what! If they want to take it as an insult or 'rub-in' - SO BE IT. It is proper to send an invite EVEN IF you know already they aren't going. I am. And thats just wedding etiquette! The sad part is - ur spending money on a nice pretty invite only for them to pitch it in the garbage. Oh well. How is your FI through all of this? Has he stood up to them at all??? It is HIS family after all. The crappy thing is - this is going to hang over your heads forever now. Almost the same thing happened to a co-worker of mine. She and her husband got married in Scotland - (was her forever dream to be married in a castle) and the grooms parents refused to attend. Though they did have an at home reception - its still created a riff with them. The thing is - I'm not even having an AHR either. I'm not making it EASY for those who don't want to spend the money to see me get married. The was the 1st question out of their mouths when they found out we were going to Mexico. I was like 'Nope- sorry - you'll either be there or you wont'. I'm not dropping another $15000 just to accommodate the people who can't be bothered to spend $1400 to come for an entire week and see me get married. There are in fact people who just don't justify spending the money - and thats totally fine...not everyone wants to go to Mexico - but just accept the fact that you'll be missing out and then shut-up about it. I think the problem is with some of our families - is they take it personal! In which I have to say 'ya... - i'm having a destination wedding for the SOLE purpose to pi$$ you off!' Give me a break! Hey newsflash! It's actually NOT all about you! Its actually about my FI and I - but thanks for coming out! I agree with you though - its SO Sad and pathetic that its adults acting like this! I honestly expected a lot more from my family. But it is what it is. Like I said - I expected SOME backlash - right away - have your 5min of bellyaching- but then be DONE with it! I didn't think I was signing myself up for 16 + months of your whining! GROW UP! Sigh - well - i'm glad you guys stood your ground anyway. It sucks that money plays such a HUGE factor in a wedding - but it does. My parents are so amazing about it that they asked if we were sacrificing a nice wedding at home for a beach wedding because of the money. We're like 'no way - this is what we want and the fact that we're saving a good 20 grand doing it - is icing on the cake'. They're helping us out no matter what which is great - especially as we're building our house next year too. But at that point we still had the mentality that if it was just our parents and us on the beach so be it. Its what we want cuz its OUR day. I think both our families will have regrets about how they acted. I'm hoping I won't have to put them in their place - but if it comes to that - so be it. I'm not going to let whats supposed to be one of the most special days of my life be ruined by anyone cuz it doesn't suit them. Get over it - or don't - but leave me out of it!

OMG! Thats retarded expensive! Even the resort DJ is only $210/hr. Not entirely sure what it entails or how good they are but I woudl still choose chat over spending a grand with no frills! Has anyone used DJ Doremixx? how does he compare to the resort DJ for Tulum??

I'm booked for Nov 2012 - and they said 2pm also - my TA (who also got married at Tulum) said thats just the standard time they put in - and it can be changed later... but if you WC told you thats all they have maybe its true. As your wedding is a lot closer than mine. I would double check directly with them. Ask if you can change it till 3 or 3:30 - thats what i'll do a bit closer to the date.

Ya- I actually did do that - only had peopl einvited to the wedding added to the group - but of course those are the same people who are giving me grief - so that didn't much help matters. lol oh well. I'll just delete the innappropriate comments as they come and if they ask me why i'll just nicely tell them that I only prefer positive input regarding the wedding. As snooty as this sounds - i dont feel like i shoudl have to contain my excitement about something wedding related just for other people's sake. If they don't like seeing it - they can hide me from their newsfeed - or simply don't look at my profile. I'm not going to accommodate those 2% who have an attitude problem when the other 98% want to share in my excitement.

Hi guys- thanks so much for your replies - Its good to know I'm not the only one in this situation. And you're all right - its what we want that matters - but it still doesn't make our family get togethers any easier. I knew there would be 'cranky' people when this DW was announced - but i genuinely thought they'd have their 5 min of bellyaching and be done with it! i'm just getting to the point of fed up. they definitely aren't making me feel bad about having a DW - and I'm not even having and AHR either. But what they are doing is making what supposed to be one of the most exciting periods of my life - miserable. I'm almost at the point where I'm going to lose my s**t on them or just stop going to family get togethers...or blocking people from FB. Its sad to say - but I honestly dont think I can put up with another 16months of this. Its so juvenile. And whats worse - is the aunt thats being the total cow is the mother of the cousin whom I was MOH for 2yrs ago..and I basically lived and breathed her wedding. I poured every ounce of blood sweat and tears into giving her everything perfectly and this is the friggin thanks i get?? I'm not even askin her to be 'excited' - but the least she can do is show a bit of interest or support! Guess thats too much to ask . Oh well - my parents are actually gettin to the point of fed up also - and are thinking of sitting down with my dads sister to nicely 'put her in her place' We'll see what happens! Thanks again for everyones input! My thoughts go out to the other brides who are dealing with all their own family dramas too. Glad there's forums like these to vent and actually have others who genuinely UNDERSTAND!!

So sorry if this has already been posted - I tried to have a peek but couldn't see much that was the same.. and also SO sorry for the length - but I'm getting really upset and need to vent Ok - soooo...my FI and I got engaged Jan of this year. We decided shortly after to have a Destination wedding in Mexico. We knew from the get-go that some wouldn't be able to attend due to money issues. We were fine with that - basically adopted the mentality "whomever makes it..makes it..even if its just our parents". So out came the announcement and actually the group booking rate. Very early indeed - but we got a great deal so we jumped on it. To our surprise so did 30 others! We were shocked at how many booked - especially being 18months out from the wedding (Nov 2012). Now - on my moms side...I have two cousins and their wives that won't be able to attend. They are early 20's and just don't have the cash. One cousins wife - has been a thorn in my side lately. I've only posted a handful of wedding-related updates on Facebook (ex:We booked our photographer! or Poolside reception!)...ONLY as my Status - nothing else. And she just can't refrain from saying 'Stop posting about it - we can't go!' Next - my mom's sister - who IS going - can't help but throw her peanut gallery comments in when anything related comes up Like: "your looking at wedding magazines ALREADY?!?!"..or "Why are you going to Michaels? to get more crappy wedding stuff?" Next - my dads sister - who is NOT coming - has been the biggest pain - mostly because she's an adult and you'd think you'd expect some maturity - but apparently thats too much to ask. Ever since we announced destination - all she can ever do is throw her peanut gallery comments in like "Just have the wedding here - so it can be sooner"...or "We have a perfectly good backyard for your wedding!" NOW...she can't even acknowledge the wedding at all! My cousin (her daughter) mentioned we had booked our photographer and she couldn't even muster a response!!! She just turns her head and ignores the conversation! SERIOUSLY!?!?! Now - I'm not expecting the people that can't go - to be jumping up and down with excitement about wedding plans...nor do I even expect them to inquire (though it would be nice) - but what is their problem!?!?! I understand it sucks that they can't make it - but give me a break! I'm NOT shoving my wedding news in their faces whatsoever....but either I'm getting snotty comments or not even acknowledgement that this wedding even exists! We're only 8 months in and 16 to go - and I'm already starting to pull my hair out about it! My dad is starting to get upset at his sisters actions and is threatening to 'talk to her' about them - but I told him to just hold his tongue for now. The last thing I want or need is drama. But now I'm starting to get to the point where I feel like I'm walking on eggshells when we're around everyone. I feel like I can't talk freely about wedding plans without upsetting someone or getting the snotty comments or attitude that aren't needed. Ok - sorry again that was so long. I need to vent - especially to those who may have gone through this and can offer up some advice. I know I can't let it get to me - but its easier said than done. What has anyone else done in the past??? It would be one thing to just ignore them - but like I said - I feel like I can't even discuss my wedding around any of them. Which I think is absolutely ridiculous. I'm 30 years old and I've waited my entire life to get married - and now that its happening I have to watch what I say around whom? Give me a break! Phew - ok..sorry Shutting up now... Any input would be great thanks!

no prob - i just figured it would be a pain in the rear to slide it in the envelope with glue on the bottom

Thank you soooo much! looks like you only glue the top - thats the part I was confused about

ha ha- ya- not sure on that one - its fun to experiment anyway! thanks! Good luck!

I'm curious how you did your envelope liners?? they're awesome!

Just inserted the images on the page - I find it a lot easier than Word - less restrictions Lots you can do with inserting shapes and pictures. I found the palm picture online - just inserted it on the Excel spreadsheet...then added a frame around it...inserted a Text Box and tweaked the sizes and colors a bit and voila!!

If you can believe it - I actually did it on Excel - all manually - I'm sure there's easier ways - a lot of girls use Power Point but I have no idea how

Just created this - I think its pretty cool for a newbie