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I've been told by the Tulum WC - that you need your music on a CD for the ceremony and for the reception - you can bring your iPod for the DJ to use if you have specific music you want played

Hi gals- I emailed him this morning and already got a response back Marvin is amazing! He's charging me just about half of what the resort wants to charge me and his delivery fee is small -- and way worth it!

Hi Ladies - I'm curious what past brides have done about flowers I just got a quote from GBP Tulum and its absolutely OUTRAGEOUS what they want to charge! Granted I am choosing some expensive-type flowers (Orchids and calla lilies) but I've already spoken to a florist in PDC and for my bouqet he quoted me $190USD where the resort wants $570USD!!! Has anyone else priced out flowers outside of the resort? And if anyone used an outside florist- was it fairly easy just to have them deliver right to the resort?

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Poop! So sorry to hear. Did you guys not sign a contract? I'm sure you'll find someone else to fill and as said above- worst comes to worst - you can use Arrecife I noticed you're from Edmonton - I'm in Calgary and I'm bringing my own photog too His name is Andras Schram if you want to check him out www.andrasschram.com

Very nice pics! thanks for sharing! Hey - did you guys just use the DJ offered through the resort?

Great review! Congrats! Can't wait to see the wedding pics!!

I've just decided to go along with the rest of the brides and use my own resort. Not my #1 pick but its way cheaper that way so its all fine. I'm told they do an amazing job so I'm sure we'll be happy with it

Stlucia....wow....I'm very surprised at this turn of events. More-so that he's followed up on talking to his family. I guess the question is...NOW WHAT?? I hate to say this - but this is beyond what I think me or any of the other girls here can answer for you. Thats something that you'll have to answer for yourself. But i actually think its time to turn to the professionals. BOTH by yourself...AND with your man. You need to find out if the damage thats been done to your relationship is repairable or not. I think counseling is the best way to find that out. I'm not sure if your work offers any kind of EAP (Employee Assistance Program) - but mine does - we get 6 free counseling sessions..and my FI and I took advantage of it about a month ago. Mainly for 2 reasons - we we're staring to fight/argue in a very NON-healthy way. - to the point of me questioning if we were right for each other.....and because I think its important to have pre-marital counseling anyway. We've only gone for 3 sessions and I see a major difference already. Granted we're not attending for the same reasons you would be - but honestly its the best decision we coudl have made. Our conselor is non-biased and doesn't take sides at all. She simply lets us talk..she asks us questions and helps each of us interpret what the other is saying Because sometimes...I am fully on Venus and my FI is way off on Mars. No joke. Like I said - i think it shows great promise that your FI has come around the way he has - but at the same time - like you said...it may be too late. He's already failed you once with regards to his family. Whats to say he won't do it again? (Not trying to put doubts in your mind - just playing devils advocate here) Also - WHY NOW?? Why at the sudden whim of him literally moving out does he change his tune?? (Btw - this kinda proves my previous theory correct about him not taking the 'break-up' seriously and having his cake and eat it too with the living situation) I guess I just worry that as soon as you 'come back' to him - he'll relax and go back to the way things were. I don't know - of course you know him better than anyone What I do know - is don't jump into ANYTHING at this point. TRIAL relationship time! You guys haven't even had a full opportunity to see what life is like without each other. And I think thats what made him snap to begin with. But you shouldnt have to go to such extremes to get him to 'come around' and see your point of view. Unfortunately I think for you to truly believe that he's changed is to see it for your own eyes...and you've had a glimpse which is good - but I think you need to see more to really believe he means what he says about you being his #1. Right now I wouldn't even mention the thought of getting married to him until, A) you've decided to give your relationship a chance to HEAL and you've seen more proof of his promises to you. I surely hope he doesn't expect you to jump back in his arms and start re-planning the wedding JUST because he's stood up a little to his family. I personally think that's not enough after all you've endured. But thats just me. These are all things you're going to have to go through in your head....but don't forget your heart too! You need to ask yourself questions like...'can I trust him again?' 'Do I still see a permanent future with him?' 'Even though his family has reached out - have they mended their damage? and can I expect a lifetime of their BS?' 'How do you FEEL when you're with him?' ** Remember - this is a man you agreed to marry - but also realized the 'true' him through this whole mess too!** I would maybe go back to some of your earlier postings when all the drama was going on - and read what you wrote about him and his family. Granted- you were upset and emotional - but you have to ask yourself if you still feel the same way? Sorry for the rant - hope I gave you something to go with! Keep us posted as usual!

you're welcome. Ya - its expensive - but I also hate the fact that you have to have a minimum amount of guests too. There's no way I'm getting 50 people to come to Mexico so its definitely out for me. Good luck!

Glad to hear you didn't have much hassle with your photog. Ill be bringing my own also. And I wasnt sure if i should tell them or not. But it sounds like they do what they have to do and they're out. Yay. Very happy to hear your AHR was a success! CAN'T WAIT TO SEE ALL YOUR PICS! Not just the wedding ones..ALL of them. So excited!!! Upload as soon as you can and as many as you can!

Oh good - glad you got them. Ya- its very pricey. As amazing as it would be - its just too rich for my blood.

Ya - the prices aren't cheap and they have a min number of guests you have to have too so that makes it even more difficult..thats the reason i didn't go with them. you'll have to send me ur email addy because its all attachments

The resort only has a red runner - But I bet if you looked online you could find a pink one and bring it yourself...they'll for sure provide the rose petals if you ask for them

Wow! Crystal! Looks like it was fantastical!! nice teaser pics...now you definitely have to post more..MUCH more! We wanna see it ALL! Ceremony, reception, decor...food...cake..everything!!! Thanks for the quickie update!

So glad to hear I'm not the only one struggling. Ya..a few years ago I went on the old WW's program and lost 25lbs in one summer!! and i didn't step foot in the gym once! All i did was walk for 90min 3-4times a week. Granted I'm a bit older now but I still don't think it should be taking this long. 6lb loss in 5 weeks is ridiculous!! I'm still trying to decide if its the new program thats the problem or if its just me. I hate to even think about the thought that my body is resistant to dieting now. Does that mean I have to essentially starve myself to even lose 2lbs!?!?! I'm looking to turn to a nutritionist to see what they say about it - I just don't know where to turn to right now

Hiya ladies - glad to see everyone is having so much success on here! I started WW's 5 weeks ago and am only down 6.1lbs. My 1st week I lost 4.4 and since then its only been around 0.5lb loss/week. SO FRUSTRATING!!! I was on the old WWs program a few years ago and had huge success. This summer I tried the Dukan Diet because I wanted the quick results - and I got them..but couldn't sustain it so jumped off. Knowing my past success with WW's I decided to give it another shot and just 'accept' that it will take me longer to lose. But to be honest - I didn't think it would take THIS long. I'm not saying I expect to lose 4lbs every week - but between 1-2lbs most weeks would suffice! This 0.5 crap is starting to get to me...ESPECIALLY when I've been at the gym minimum 4 times a week. Doing either weights...cardio or Zumba classes. And i've NEVER eaten my activity points. Looking for some encourgement here - or some kind of advice as to what to try. This week wasn't the best week given it was Halloween but I've still maintained my points and only used about 1/2 my Flex points. I know I could UP my water bigtime - but i just don't see what else I could be doing wrong. Yes - I realize im still losing..and I'm probably being too hard on myself..but its just getting so frustrating putting all this work and effort in - just for 0.5!! Not to mention the money every week to weigh-in at the meetings! I'm tempted to try the old program and see if I get some more movement on the scale with that. My leader said I needed to change up my food because I was starting to eat the exact same things for breakfast and lunch everyday - so I did that..and still 0.6 loss only. I know I have a fair bit of time - my wedding isnt till Nov 2012 but I went to start trying on wedding dresses last weekend and I truly hated myself! I don't even want to go back and try anymore on because no matter how good the dress looks - im not going to be happy. This trainer I've been talking to says my body is immune to dieting now because Ive done it so much - do you think thats possible? I don't want to give up - but if I dont' start seeing some 'decent' results soon - I dont know what i'm going to do.

Technically no - you can't use outside photogs The only way around it is if you book them into the resort as a guest for minimum 2-3 nights OR if you bring your own from home (they'll be considered a guest at your wedding, so the resort can't do anything) I was about to go with Ivan Luckie but then found out that i'd have to book him in to have him. Just wasn't worth it in the end. I'm bringing my own from home. He's fairly pricey - but we're getting 2 engagement sessions (one home, one in Mexico), the ENTIRE wedding day, AND Trash the Dress the next day. Plus a DVD slide-show! Arrecife has great quality - but I find their prices to be a rip off for what you're actually getting. So if you're worried about quality- don't be. Its just that you'll end up paying a bit more if you want a lot of pictures. What bothered me also about Arrecife - is the fact that their packages are high in price- but you're also having to pay extra for pictures of your reception. I think thats ridiculous. Also - its all just a business to them. They show up...*snap* *snap* and thats it. I'm much more happy having a photographer who KNOWS my FI and I...knows what we like etc etc. Plus - he'll be there ALL week with us - so on the off chance of nasty weather on the wedding day...we at least can make up for it!! And whats nice for my guests is that my photog is offering private couples sessions throughout the week for a discounted price. You really just have to weigh your pro's and con's. Some people think photography is the be-all end-all of their wedding. Others not so much. Like I said - I've seen their Facebook page and their shots are quite nice - I just can't justify paying around $2500USD for 160 pictures But thats just me...

that seems to be the address from the website - but your travel agent should have given u a direct email for your resort Which resort are you booked with? Coba? Akumal? Or Tulum?

lmadore...we're booked for Nov 2012 also and it was pretty easy picking the day for us. We leave Nov 27th..and we'll wait the 2 days and our ceremony is Nov 30. Easy peasy. That way we still have 4 days after the wedding to CHILLAX on the beach!!

Ohhhh I'm soooo glad to hear that St.Lucia! That makes me feel so much better to know he's working WITH you and not against you!! This will make things sooooo much easier in the long run!! Now - fingers crossed - he comes through on all that you discussed and agreed upon. Either way - its a step in the right direction for both of you!! Yay!! Definitely keep us posted on everything that happens!!! xoxo

Brenners is right. Check into your legal rights for the car. Especially if you're making payments. I'm not sure how the laws work in the US and I don't know how long you guys have lived together..but in Canada..you are considered 'Common Law' after living together for 6 months and you would have legal rights to half of everything. But again - thats just Canada..maybe US is different. Bottomline...get out..get out..get out. He's seen this as an opportunity and he's taking FULL advantage of it. It would definitely be poetic justice to force him to move home with this parents. Either way..thats not your concern. You need to get out of there ASAP - before you lose yourself completely. He and his family have already won their battle. The longer you stay..the more confused and emotionally wrecked you will get. And it will take that much longer to get past it. Which you already know you have to do. I would seek out ANY and ALL resources you have to get out of that place. Its just not worth it. You deserve better and the longer you stay there the longer you're preventing yourself from having that!!

Oy - what a sticky-icky mess! I do feel for you - and I hate to be the one to throw this point out....but I think you're going to have to swallow some financial losses to get away from him. Its pretty clear you're done with him - emotionally. You're right - regardless of what you feel or felt for him...he's not someone you thought he was. And you're also right in that you deserve someone who will fight for you and your relationship. He's proven he is not that man...nor will he ever be. I'm glad you've seen that aspect already..and realized you deserve so much more. No..how do we get you out!?!...other than changing the locks on him..ha ha! What about your family? Didn't you mention you wanted to move somewhere else anyway? Is there a way for you to find work there? I agree with Brenners - maybe see if you can seek some legal advice and find out what your options are. Do you have any friends in town that you could stay with? I know if it were me - I'd move home with the 'rents for a while...till I got back on my feet. Finding a new job..and getting $ together to get a place of my own. As far as the cars go...maybe see if he will actually put it in your name..and if you can get him to do so..you have no financial ties to him. By the sounds of things - you really have nothing stopping you from packing up your stuff and leaving. He's refusing to leave because he knows/thinks you have nowhere else to go. I think its time to prove him wrong. I hate to say it but it may even be worth giving up the car to get out. Of course its your call though - but it sounds like you're aware that staying there is just toxic for you. And 'you' is what you have to think about and concern yourself with now. Not him.

Oh dear - I was hoping you would reply saying you weren't sharing the same roof anymore. Understandble that you cant just pick up and leave...however i agree with the other gals that its really not healthy with you being there. As bad I as I do feel for him...i get the sense that he's getting the best of both worlds right now. Pleasing his mother and being with you. Thats not fair to you. And even though I'm sure without a doubt that he still loves you- calling you up and telling you that isn't very respectful of you and situation. If your relationship is over..then it must end. With him doing that its like dangling candy in front of a kid and yanking it away. Its like saying 'Hey..remember how awesome we are together? oh wait..but no i can't marry you'. Not cool. I'm sure he's confused and not doing it on purpose but that still doesn't make it right. If you have to co-exist for a while longer till you figure yourself out I would be telling him to stop with the 'I love you's'..and referencing the future. UNLESS he's willing to kick his family to the curb and go through with this promise of making a life with YOU. That Christmas BS is exactly that. BS. I would have laughed if that was said to me. I would have told his family where to shove their 'invitation'. LOL But ya - get outta that house girl! Its noooo good for either of you. Its really just torturing each other seeing what you could have had. He really need to learn what he's done by letting his family get in the way. With having you there everyday...I feel he's kinda having his cake and eating it too. Sorry - just my opinion. But keep us posted for sure!! No matter what!

I agree! can't hurt to ask! either way - I'm sure your flowers will be beautiful