Katelynn, Im sorry you are going through that! I think it will become an issue for myself as well. What you described sounds exactly like my situation too. I also dont want to do speeches or the traditional dances. My FI is always concerned with pleasing his parents, so I hope they just leave us alone and let us do it the way we want to do it. Our wedding and travel dates have been changed for his parents already. So I really hope there is no more interference. But I'm quoting ACW's advice because it was great!! Thanks Acw for the wonderful suggestions on how to deal with the situation. You have helped me out possibly too, in case I also run into this situation.