I have four bms. I originally had five, but one of them is unabe to come. Most of the people on my side are coming and only a few of my hubby's people are coming. He will have 3 groomsmen and I'm happy that two of them are his close friends and another is a new friend, the husband of my good friend. I thought about convincing him to add one more person (soeone from my family) to even it out, but I soon realized that I wouldn't wat someone to force me to get a bm. Like everyone has mentioned, it's best to have people who you'd like to stand up for you because it's a special moment. I'm glad you were able to compromise with your hubby on the numbers, while still having your mother standing up for you.