I've had my tears already too, and we haven't officially picked a date yet. It's so great to know that I am not alone in my DW struggles. I was so worried that my dad would say no, and that I think would have done me in. I have a small family of 8 total and 6 are my brother and his family. My SIL told me flat out that it isn't going to happen and my brother is willing to do anything to make it work even if it is only for a few days. I just wish they would know where the other is coming from because the emotional roller coaster I think will drive me crazy. I've accepted that they probably won't be there not with 4 kids and 2 adults, and I knew that when I chose to have a DW, but I don't want to feel guilty for wanting to be with the people that matter the most to us for longer than 5 minutes of chatting at a table, and not remembering those 5 minutes...