First of all, just remember that it is your wedding and its your special day to do with and make it however you want! And the only people that need to be there are you and your FI. We went through similar events with people in regards to our DW. We knew that we would have backlash from people who wanted us to get married in Canada. I am the first grandchild on my dads side of the family and I have heard tons from his family that we should be having our wedding at home so that everyone can come and that we are being selfish for asking people to pay so much money to come with us. At first it really bothered me but now I don't really care because its my FI and I wedding and we are going to be there getting married and who ever comes comes. Just remember that you will always have people saying and doing negative things, even if you were having your wedding at home!