Welcome! And congrats on your engagement over a year ago!
Ill try to answer what I can -Settling on a location was probably the hardest part for us. We were both University students at the time and wanted somewhere easy to get to that wasn't going to break the bank. We looked into Mexico, Dominican, Jamaica and a few other carribean destinations. We loved Mexico as its cheaper then most other places, however, to legally get married there it seemed like a lot of work and money to get documents translated ect. We chose Jamaica as no one in our group had ever been there and it was relatively cheap. Also, its really easy to legally get married there. After that we chose a resort based on our budget. -Yes, it is possible to have a nice wedding for less then 10K. We spent just under $5000 for everything, travel included. The big thing for us was to find a resort that offered a free wedding package. -We basically told everyone we were having a destination wedding because thats what we wanted to do. Most of our family was supportive with a few who were not and questioning our decision. In the end its your wedding and you need to do what you want to do, not what others want you to do. -As to particular resorts, I think most cater to destination weddings especially since their popularity is increasing. As to choosing a resort we went based on wedding packages available and we also worked closly with a travel agent who was able to find us resorts that fit our budget. From there we did lots of research and narrowed our search. Hope that helps!