Pucca

BWD Name Real Name Departing Wedding Date Location JoanneIreland Joanne November 6th November 17th Mexico Alysam4785 Alysa October 30th November 5th Mexico Pucca Eun-sil November 6th November 11th Mexico

Those turned out great! Good job!!

JBean, what a great thread! And it looks like there are a lot of us who are frustrated, including me!! I agree with you 1,000,000%!! It isn't so much the fact that you are coming or not coming; a little thing called RSVP really really helps!! Learn to do it the proper way! I have a guest who totally ignored my emails and phone calls and then I ended up learning (through someone else) that they have absolutely no money and can't come! Appalling, considering they didn't have the gumption to just be upfront and honest with me, AND, that out of all our guests, their two tickets would end up costing the least - having had a year's notice to save up for this wedding. I'm trying hard not to say anything directly to this person, or even too much to my fiance, because she's going to be future family and I don't want any rifts to form other than the one she's creating.... I've asked for her to call us so we can just talk to her and she can tell us directly what her situation is; but has she? Nope..... If she would have called, we would have offered to pay for their tickets because we found such a cheap deal for them. But I guess she really didn't want to talk to us or whatever. I've decided that it's her loss really....not ours. Of course my future mother-in-law keeps mentioning that it's because we chose to have our wedding in such an expensive place as Mexico. As much as I love her, I told my fiance that I don't want to hear that anymore because it obviously turned out to be less expensive for his family than mine so let's not bring money into this discussion. And then I have family members who sat on their duffs and have not purchased any tickets despite me having notified them three times in the last month and a half of reasonable airfares! And yesterday my mom tells me that they told her they might not come because ticket prices are too expensive! Well, DUH..... If you had purchased tickets when I told you to, you wouldn't have had to pay extra now would you?!? My main problem with all of this is the lack of communication. Be up front with me. Let's have a discussion and let's see if I can help you figure something out! I'm not made of money of course but I feel I am somewhat of a savvy traveler so let's look at all the options that may be available! Don't ignore me or twiddle your thumbs expecting the money fairy to drop a bucket of $100 bills on you! So that's my vent..... My fiance reminds me that despite all of this, personal or not, we are going to have the time of our lives with the wonderful people who have made the effort to plan ahead and are going to be there. And those who are there are the important people; and those who aren't can just be sorry they missed out on a doggone good time! I've decided he's right, even as I think that it's sad people don't know how to communicate. But I've also come to realize that weddings, destination or not, reveal people's character for the most part. These are definitely excuses indeed. I have a friend who's a teacher. She had a year's notice but she knew she couldn't use any vacation days since she technically doesn't have any; but she has personal days. So she decided she's going to call in sick the day before and make it a long weekend. I'm so grateful she'll be there. I also know other people who could probably adjust their schedules with plenty of time but have chosen not to. Oh well.

I agree. I don't think they have to match. We've only bought our cake cutting & serving set. I'm just going to use whatever champagne flutes the caterer has and will probably attach some decoration to them. So ours are definitely not going to match!

LOL! Makes me feel better too that I'm not alone in this! Not sad at all Joanne!! I start with "must take shoes" sometimes if I'm stuck about what clothes to pack. Sometimes I make a list to get me started because I think beginning to actually pack so early is really crazy. But I do have an excuse this time considering I am packing up to move before leaving for Mexico. So I wanna make sure I have everything I want to take already in the suitcase so I'm not stressed out looking for it after the move. Thankfully we're only gone for 8 days! Less to pack. If I were going to be gone for 20 days I'd definitely start packing now! lol! And I hate packing for winter trips. I prefer packing for summer trips. Hee hee.

I don't think you're a nerd at all, cuz if you are, then so am I! I always plan my outfits when I travel, even if it's casual! And I'm crazy. I pack a week or two ahead of time and then check my luggage or re-pack a night or two before I leave.

I like this non-traditional look! It looks like it goes with your e-ring and looks beautiful on its own as well. Can you get this one in diamonds only? Maybe that way you can eliminate the need to match the sapphires perfectly.

We fly 6 weeks from today too!! Ready but not quite ready yet, if that makes sense! Have a draft of my vows but will probably rewrite. Heh heh.

I recently had to fly with my dress (my mom offered to alter it for me when I visited her to save me some $$) and flew Virgin America. I carried it in the white plastic (not see-through) garment cover they gave me the dress in at the salon. No one cared that I was maybe carrying a wedding dress and I didn't bother to ask considering it was going to get wrinkled while being altered and fitted. But of course I was still concerned. I folded it gently in half, put it in the overhead compartment, and prayed other people wouldn't squash it with their luggage. It made it to my mom's okay. On the return trip I found a garment suitcase for men's suits lying around at my brother's so I put my dress in there with the cover on it, since it was lighter and shorter after the alterations. Worked out much better than just the cover on its own so I'll be taking my dress in that when heading to Mexico. Will probably put fiancé's suit in there too for less wrinkling all around. My mom steamed the dress so it's not all that wrinkled right now. I imagine I'll just put it in the bathroom every time I take a hot shower or borrow a steamer from the resort, if they have one. Even though we are flying a different airline to Mexico, I'd rather prepare for indifference & my own peace of mind so not sure I'm even going to bother to ask if they can hang my dress...

Lol! Did you get your dress yet? I remember reading that you were waiting for your dress to come in. As for teeth-whitening, I agree. Go with the strips and save money. They work really well. Go-Smile also works well, although I think they cost more than the strips.

I decided not to do the veil in the event that winds might make it blow all over the place. So I'd say headpiece too. Yay!! How exciting!!!!! Your nausea will pass!

We leave 6 weeks from Sunday and get married 7 weeks from today!! We've got quite a few things left to do: get legally married pack up and move before we head to Mexico finish table numbers and place cards make tags for bubbles shop for family gifts go over ceremony script finish adding music and playlists finish writing vows figure out hair accessories figure out make-up I think that's about it, although it seems like a lot to do in 6 weeks!! Eeek!

Right around the corner is right!! Still need to get to my table numbers, escort cards, and other little things. Whew! But I'll be getting married 7 weeks from today!!! Getting really excited!!

Kristen, I agree with the other ladies here. You look beautiful in this dress as it is! If I could look like you in a strapless I would have considered a strapless wedding dress! I think with the sweetheart neckline it will look absolutely gorgeous! And I don't know why you'd want to lose 20 pounds, unless you're thinking of your health like jmastr05 said! You have a great figure! I think sometimes we go into wedding dress shopping with too many ideas in our heads, especially when all the models in wedding dress magazines are thin and tall (I'm stocky and short with broad shoulders). The dress I wanted from pictures I'd seen ended up looking awful on me. And the dress I ordered was definitely not what I envisioned purchasing but it had all the elements I wanted and things I didn't think I'd like. It actually was totally me, my friends said, despite the fact that it was nothing like what they thought I might purchase. But I definitely had my doubts after ordering my dress. I ordered it in December and didn't see it again till May. Halfway between December and May I went and tried on this other dress (at a party dress store) because it just caught my eye and I thought it was beautiful and perfect for a beach wedding, not to mention something nontraditional which I wanted. The fabric flowed more, there was color in it which I had always thought would be fun and it fit me perfectly. I was in agony for days, so much so that I decided to go back to the bridal salon with a friend (who saw me in the other dress) to try on the sample of my dress. Since she had seen me in both she was able to give me an honest opinion about both dresses and she LOVED the original dress I had chosen hands down over the other one. Of course I still stared at the picture of me in the party dress for the next week but I put it out of my mind eventually, especially after my fiance told me to go with my gut instincts and stop thinking about everything else (I even showed him the dress so that I would not be tempted to buy it, since he hasn't and won't see my wedding dress till the big day). But the day I went to try on my dress that had finally come in I knew I had chosen the right one. It needed some alterations but overall I absolutely loved it. I didn't cry or anything (I didn't even cry the first day I said yes to that dress; I just left the store grinning like an idiot); my friend said I just glowed. I can tell you now, after all my alterations have been done, I am sooooooo happy about my dress, and so happy that I put the other one out of my mind because it doesn't compare. So remind yourself why you chose the dress and what you love about it. If you need a physical reminder, go back and try it on again. Maybe it'll help you with the doubts.

I would definitely say go with what the consultant suggests since consultants (generally) are experienced and have come across all sorts of brides and occasions; if they say get your dress measured for heels if you are planning to wear heels for your reception, you probably want to do that. It makes sense to me since you'll be wearing them longer - ceremonies are usually shorter than receptions. When you walk down the aisle barefoot or with flats/flip flops, you'll just want to be a bit more careful and walk a little slower. I don't think it would be that drastically different, particularly if your heels are not more than 2.5 inches. If you think the extra fabric is going to trip you up down the aisle, maybe you want to look for some wedges. Those will have similar heights to the heels and you can walk down the aisle without your heels sinking in the sand. I'm wearing flip flops for my ceremony and probably taking off the shoes altogether for the reception since both will be on the sand. My mother practically flipped out (ha ha) when I told her about flip flops. But then she calmed down when I showed her that they weren't those regular Old Navy type flip flops. I do have a pair of pretty heels for photos, just in case, but I doubt I'll actually put them on as I'm not sure what it would look like since my dress was hemmed for flip flops. I guess we'll see.

Fabulous choice! How awesome that it fits you so well and that it lets you stand freely! Love the rouching and the ruffles!

Hmmmm....that sounds like a plan. Only I'm not sure we will be able to do that as a carry on since I'm planning to carry on a few other things. I'll have to figure it out. I also wondered how well they do once on the cake, in Mexico's warm weather. Maybe I'll just bring both in case. Oh boy.... More decisions!

I'm supposed to have shells on my cake; the bakery asked me to bring my own shells so I was thinking of taking down some decorative ones left over from making table number frames. I did think about the chocolate seashells but my concern is how to get them down to Mexico without having them melt or squished. Wasn't sure if I was just being overly concerned though. Still pondering what to do. Has anyone taken chocolate shells down without any problems?

Thanks coconoir but I can't take credit for such sensible words. It was jmastr05.

Finding True Love Online My fiancé Alex and I met on Facebook. We weren’t in the same network nor did we have mutual friends. We just had mutual “appsâ€. My friends would send me these links to social apps where you could connect with other people in a limited manner within Facebook. I didn’t really want to participate in them but being single my curiosity got the better of me, despite my disillusionment with relationships. Alex apparently was curious too. So he saw my photo on one of the apps and messaged me saying that he thought I was hot. I saw his picture, said the same thing as he was hot I thought, and hoped he’d go on his merry way. I wasn’t interested in a relationship let alone something online. Besides, who was to know what kind of guy he was? But he didn’t leave me alone. Lol! He would message me saying hello – very polite, and gave me his email to chat on MSN at the time. He’d also email me on Facebook and I proceeded to lie to him that I was in a very happy relationship. He still stuck around saying that he’d wait for me even if that happened to be a very long time. I thought he was crazy but continued to talk with him as for the most part he was quite friendly. We did get into a few arguments chatting online; but of course, talking online can lead to miscommunication as the body language is not there. Later I learned that he was just being mischievous to get me worked up. Great….he’s a prankster, I used to think. Never did I think he was going to win me over. I was too busy with my graduate studies and really didn’t want a relationship like I didn’t want another hole in my head, even with the questions my family always asked me because I was over 30 and single. I was pretty content with my life at that point. But we ended up talking on the phone and texting a lot. When I got sick, he would text and check in on me; and I just felt that he was very thoughtful. And when he had to put down one of his cats because of illnesses, I saw another side of him. So 4 months after we started talking, I met him for the first time, visiting him in Florida where he lived at the time. Fortunately it coincided with a close friend’s graduation at the time so I reasoned that if things didn’t work out, I could just stay with my friend. He lived two hours away from my friend and drove me back and forth 4 times round trip in total by the time the week was over; that in and of itself was just impressive and sweet. When we met in person, the connection was instant. I realized that I had fallen in love with him before I had even seen him in person. He had already told me he loved me but I had a hard time believing him until I met him in person. But having met him, I understood and I found I could say it back to him. We spent 6 months in a long distance relationship, visiting each other every other month, before he moved up to New York so we could be closer. He was and is the perfect partner for me in every way. He has such a big heart and is such a wonderful man. Through all the insanity that is my life with my studies coming to an end and my father’s health failing, he has been the one who has been my constant happiness and reassurance. Last year, on a trip to a friend’s wedding in Hawaii, he proposed to me on top of Diamond Head Crater with the blue ocean in the background. I couldn’t have been more surprised and more overjoyed; I couldn’t imagine marrying anyone else but him. It was like a dream, and despite challenges and objections from my family, in less than two months we will be getting married with everyone’s blessing next to the blue ocean in Mexico. I feel like I am the most blessed woman alive and that good things do come to those who wait. Thanks for allowing us to share and for creating this contest! ~ @Eunee

Beautiful ring! I like the sapphires, having a sapphire engagement ring myself! Your fiance did a great job! I think the gap is fine, especially if you want the option of wearing the band on its own. So don't mind the gap! As for having all diamonds on the band or sapphires too, I think either way would be beautiful. I can picture in my head a nice all diamond band but I can also picture an alternating diamond and dark blue sapphire band too. I guess you'd have to determine what you want it to look like on its own and then see if it's going to clash with the e-ring or complement it. You might also want to think about whether or not you want color in your wedding band or leave it all diamonds so it goes with everything you wear. I'm a bit weird in that I have to think about things like that. I didn't want to always wear a ring that had blue in it since sometimes it didn't really "go" with my outfit. So my fiance got me a separate wedding ring (a 3-stone diamond one, not a band) because I didn't want to do the combination thing and he didn't want that either apparently (he told me later when we were looking for wedding rings). I love my e-ring on its own and I love my wedding ring on its own which was just the way I (and he) wanted it. lol! And as for sapphires being "softer" than diamonds, technically it's true. But relatively speaking, diamonds are the hardest stones on earth and sapphires come in right after them, so if diamonds are a 10 as far as hardness, sapphires are a 9. So "softer" still leaves sapphires up there as far as hardness and durability go. I'm not so sure we will bang up our rings to the extend that they will wear and tear so bad. If they do, either the sapphire wasn't a really good quality one or I'm not sure what kinds of things you do with your rings on. Honestly, I'm not concerned about wear and tear with my e-ring but just in case, I tend to take it off when I'm doing work around the house. So good luck with your decision!

What a great cake find!! I definitely agree that it's simple but classy. Very appropriate for a beach destination wedding! And different too! I think it'll look great as a square cake as well, especially since I'm partial to square wedding cakes.

Joanne, I hear you. Protect that dress then!! I'll wait to see pictures when you get back!! Your dress is still at the store I imagine? It's a good thing because I imagine it's less time to try and keep that dress in hiding! Mine is home with me, all altered now. So it's reeeeeally hard not to pull it out all the time. lol! We fly November 6th too so I'm trying not to pull it out too much. Sorry to hear about the trouble with your TTD dress. Hope things will work out either way!

Yay!!! How exciting!!! I know what you mean about the nervousness up to the point where you try on your dress; I think we talked about this on another thread. Heh heh. But I bet you're having some sweet dreams now about that dress!! Did you post pictures previously?

Hear hear! Well said!