First off Congrats on your engagement! Secondly relax, honestly, I just got engaged on Halloween 2010, we are getting married May 13 2011 so I understand how the time crunch can make things maddening, take it one step at a time, I went by what was most important to me and my FI, resort...photographer...dinner/party reception..invites...flowers..now little things like decorations/welcomebags/favors...Hawaii is amazing you won't need much as far as decorations go be thankful for that! This forum is super helpful with planning process check out the wedding planning journals...lastly I also completely understand the missing best friend thing...I have two best friends one from high school one from college...my friend from college told me she WANTS to get pregnant (not is but wants to) sp she doesnt watn to commit to our wedding, we have spoken since that just nothing about weddings, she asks nothing, so I say nothing, Ironically my BFF from highschool WILL be 7 month pregnant at our wedding adn is so helpful! So I take from these situations, that peoples true colors really show, glad it happened sooner than later I know who to call when I need someone and who not to...anyway hope all goes well with your planning, PM me if you need