When my sister got married, they incorporated their vows to include her son (who was 12), and he stood with them, and left with them. It was really sweet, and, more importantly, a good idea to make your kids feel included and to know that they aren't forgotten. I know when my mom got married to her now husband, she only told one of my sisters on the actual wedding day. It was really hurtful, and didn't make it easy to accept her husband into our family. sunstarsmoon - I absolutely LOVE Couples San Souci! I am sure your wedding will be so beautiful! Where are you getting married on the property?