I totally disagree! For us an AHR is just an opportunity to get together with those who were not able to make due to whatever reason. We are not expecting gifts, no registry and will make it very clear to everyone that gifts are not necessary. An AHR will be opportunity for those who couldn't be at the wedding to see pictures, slideshows, etc. We are the ones who are spending the money hosting an AHR so essentially we are giving back to those who spent their money by attending our wedding, besides they aren't just going for our wedding, they are also getting a week's vacation too.