If you can have the wedding local with no regrets,then do it locally...My mom had said similar things to me but I know I will regret it if I can't get married on a tropical island. I just picture it being the perfect moment even if it was just us. I know it hurts and bothers you more because it comes from your mother(b/c it hurt me) but it comes with the destination wedding,Not everyone can come and that's ok....It's OUR day!