I am so sorry you have to go through this. It is hard not to feel disappointed no matter what. I know it's easier to say than to do but you should not feel guilty. It is your wedding and it is TOTALLY not selfish. I choose to do a Destination wedding because I could not bare having so many people telling me what to do and I know that in the end they would still be criticizing because you can't please everyone. I didn't want to have someone else's wedding. It was a hard decision because none of our parents could afford it. They were not very thrilled about it initially, especially my parents. I am working extra overtime to actually pay for their trips. My siblings were not thrilled about it either and I really thought they would not be present at all. I could not afford paying for their trips. In the end, my parents actually decided to pay for their own flights and they booked they flights before me!! My parents are getting excited about it (more than me to a certain point because I have been stressed out with the planning). My siblings booked their tickets before me too! I do feel a bit sad for my fiance, apart from his parents, none of his family will be there. Well maybe we will have some surprises. We won't have a honeymoon, if we do it will be much later. It's all right. We have our whole lifetime to go on vacations together. I was so stressed out before and felt so much better once we decided to have a destination wedding. I think that our family will have a great time together and am very excited to spend a whole week with them. I think they will love to have this vacation too since it is not something that they would ever do on their own. Sorry, I didn't mean to make this post so long, I just wanted to share. Hopefully this will be a bit helpful to hear. I really wish that everything will turn out fine for you. Hang in there. Everything will come together. No matter what, you will have a beautiful wedding because it is yours and it will be worth it!