I am so sorry! That is awful. She should have been honest from the beginning. Maybe sell everything on Ebay to try and get some of your money back. ( My fiance had the same thing happen with one of his groomsman too. We didn't care if he couldn't make it, we were just hurt bc he told my fiance 6 months before the wedding also that he couldn't afford it and his wife's dad asked him to not take his daughter to Mexico. I don't understand why he still couldn't come, so they just took a trip to San Diego but he can't afford to attend our wedding which he knew about for a year. ( Oh well, people should just be honest from the start and just say the truth..That they can't come or plainly don't want to. The truth is always better.