This is off topic but I'm a little peeved so I wanted to share... We sent out our formal invites in July with a RSVP date of Sept 24 (our deadline for deposits is Oct1 - wanted the week cushion to make sure I could touch base with people who RSVPd yes and who haven't put down a deposit). Our invites our passport invites with a boarding pass postcard RSVP, so I suppose it is a little untraditional, but it is still an RSVP with a stamp, which would make one believe that it needs to be returned! I was talking with a girlfriend yesterday who I assumed wasn't coming, but I invited her anyway because she would have come if it were at home. She said that she didn't think she had to RSVP to me, she figured if she just didn't book with the TA then it would be obvious that she wasn't coming. At this point, we have only received about 1/3 of our RSVPs in the mail. I know lots of people - including myself - often wait until the last minute to send those bacl, but now I am wondering if people know they are supposed to send them?! My mom said my aunt thought that the postcard was part of the "decoration" of the card. WTF?! There is a stamp for god's sake! Anyone else experience something like this? I was going to reach out to the people I hadn't heard from after the RSVP date, but now I'm wondering if I should even bother...