I've learned MANY MANY things, but the most important: Do what you and your fiance want. Your wedding is about the two of you, and while families are important, they have way to many overbearing opinions... Be accomodating, but make sure that it will make you happy too. People will say there are coming, but life happens, and many won't be able to because of finances, or just bc they lied in the first place! Not everyone will support your decision to have a DW but if it's what you want, DO IT! You will definitely learn that during your planning process who you can count on - for me, it's been my fiance! Photography is one of the most important things to have on your wedding day! You have to be willing to give up some control of your wedding bc you're planning from a different location. Having a travel agent is awesome! Look for inspiration online and in the forum! And take your photo's with you to your destination! I'm not buying real flowers for decor, only for my bouquet & his bout, I can't keep them, so I'm not paying for them! The happiest day of my life will be between my fiance & I! No stress, no unwanted opinions, just us!