UPDATE
I e-mailed the MAID OF HORROR asking if the bride knew about said if i was the bride i would want to know about it this. Well, got a response were she talked to me like i was a 5 year old saying they were just going to have the guests fill out the envelope (duh) and not actually write out thier own thank you (duh). I still feel this is really tacky, but being that i am the only bridesmaid who doesnt live in the same town as them (they all live in NJ where we grew up and im 65 miles away in Philly, apparently my opinion doesnt matter. The whole shower is tacky, black and white balloons on tables (what is it an over the hill party now?) Im a floral designer who gets flowers at costs and i offered to do the centerpieces and pay for them and i was shot down. I'm over it. I tried. Im just gonna keep my mouth shut and come March put on my awful spaggeti strapp dress (freezing), and walk down the aisle for the bride and thats it. Oh, and i will totally show of my awesome engagement ring the whole time since they are all talking about it anyway! Ok...im done being venting and being spiteful now.....lol.