Well my name is Kathleen but you can call me Kathleen! I'm 27 years old. I'm a little different than most of you on here as I'm already married! My husband, Kimani, and I got married 7 years ago at JoP. We were both 20 and kind of eloped. We now have a 1 year old daughter and saving up for house. I've always wanted a real wedding but I could convince the justification of spending all that money in one day to Kimani. He believed buying a house was much more important... until one day in Augus t when my bff/cousin got married! That was the first wedding he went to as an adult. I was the MOH and he was a groomsman. He fell in love with the wedding and FINALLY agreed that this is a once in a lifetime opportunity that he wouldn't want to take away from me. SO! We decided to plan a 10 year vow renewal destination wedding! Why? Because 1. After seeing ALL the members of my cousin's family (over 300+ on just our side of the family) we decided we didn't need a huge wedding for a 10 year vow renewal. Especially since I never met 80% of those blood relatives. 2. Another reason for the destination wedding is since we are planning on buying a house, we felt that it would be cheaper with a limited guest list. We're already married so it's no biggie if every single member of our families can't make it! So I know I'm 3 years early into the planning stage but for my peace of mind I NEED to start at least making a personal checklist of what I want. I'm not married a color scheme, dress, nothing! You know how you have some idea of what you want for your wedding? I don't! I have a list of what I don't want but not what I do want... So that's what leads me here! Thank you in advance for accepting me and my awkward situation and I hope I can get a lot of good ideas from you! Kathleen!