Giraffe... I am so sorry for your rough time. I know everyone reminds you that it's your day and you and your FI should be making all the decisions, but I also know that it is tough not to take other people's feelings to heart. I wanted a simple "beach" wedding gown, but my mom wants something more traditional. I'm appeasing her just because we're actually getting away with having a destination wedding. Good luck to you. Â And yes, we are only having our AHR for my mother and her friends. And I will have to have two showers, one at home for my friends and another at my mom's for her friends.