You said it yourself, if you had your way, you would choose Le Blanc. Check out the prices. It's two years away so maybe you can start a payment plan for family members. With 40 guests and a group contract, you would probably end up having your room credited, so you could use that money to supplement his family. It's your day and you will never make everyone happy, so pick your personal favorite. You may also want to check into a Palace membership wedding. The rates haven't been released for 2013, and they are usually very close, but you get more perks. The only sacrifice is that you have to act as the TA to get people booked, organize transportation, etc. And from my personal experience the Miami office is horrendous 95% of the time.