I was really struggling with this for a while. I originally thought we would have close to 30 people, but now many people have backed out...some really important people that mean the world to me. My feelings were really hurt at first, but then I realized I was getting stressed over something I had no control over, and one of the reasons I chose a DW is because of the low-stress factor. Now I've just made up my mind that no matter who shows up, as long as my fiance is there, I am happy. I had plans for the big dinner/reception, and I'm still planning to do the private dinner and reception. The only change is we won't rent a DJ now...just use the IPod. We will still do the first dance, but that is about the only formal thing, as we won't be having a wedding party (didn't want to place that pressure on people).