Wow I fit right in here with you ladies. First Issue: My BF just got married and had a baby. The kid will be more than a year old by my wedding. I asked her if she plans on coming and she said her and her husband want to but they dont know if they will be able to afford it. My thinking is that you should at least consider coming by yourself if bringing the whole family isn't feasible. She can come to my wedding for a minimum amount of time and would only be away from them for 1 entire day - that's it - just one day. I just don't think she will even make an effort to come. I am even considering helping out financially if she comes alone. She is a bridesmaid and knows it so I would think she should try a little bit harder than if I was just inviting. I also don't even see her wanting to be involved in the rest of the wedding planning, dress shopping, invitation making, etc. It's sad but I just feel we have gotten more distant the past couple years...but I know that is life. Second Issue: I have another friend who I have been friends with since 1st grade - 23 yrs. I always considered her my BF. Well her and I have had a falling out...more than once. Last year on my bday was the last time we were together and we both hit our boiling point. So she recently reached out to me and apologized and we have been talking back and forth and I saw her recently and things seem to be good. I always thought she would be in my wedding but since we haven't spoken in over a year it just doesn't seem right to have her in the wedding, especially when she has issues with another one of my BMs. She is a drama queen and usually wants all the attention so I can see it being an issue if I do ask her. On the other hand she has been my friend the longest and even though we fight like sisters and don't talk for a while I still love her to death and she has been the only who has been there and seen it all with me. Thankfully I have a wonderful sister and she is my MOH so that is one less thing I need to worry about. Its sad to say but I actually have a few girls on reserve so we will see what happens. Feels good to let things like this out. Go glad I'm not the only one. Wishing all you ladies drama-free weddings!!