We decided by default. Our guest list was over 230 people and I'm from Long Island= NOT CHEAP. So once we decided, we called our bridal party (even though we havent officially asked a lot of them yet) and told them we wanted them to be the first to know- and pulled a "Hey, we're all going to Mexico!" type thing. (My dream, absolute DREAM is to get married in Italy but we obv wouldn't be having many people if we did that. This way we are still having a big wedding. Don't mind if I want to live vicariously through you during this time lol) And then we slowly started telling other friends and finally posted it on Facebook, which, as you know, tells the world. Your idea is SO much fun!!! ))