Thanks AfricanVenus....When I posted I was thinking about the splurges like a designer dress, flying in awesome flowers and having gourmet cake and paying for everyone I want to be there's tickets....then I realized who I really want to be there {our grandmothers who have passed} can't and so I think I'd rather have amazing photography and video so that the day can last {forever} so that everyone who can't be there can enjoy it and hopefully one day my kids can enjoy it... but other than that I'm so with Jenandmark.... it does something to my FI's confidence that we have to wait and save up and I wish I had the money to make that all go away