I wouldn't feel obligated to invite her at all. My mom was not able to come with me with the exception of my first shopping experience (I knew I would not get my dress at the stores that we went to b/c it was my hometown and I live 5 hours from there) but the rest were actually better going myself or with one person...you can focus more on what YOU want and not be influenced into liking something else that they like. Â Once I found my dress, ordered it, and it came in, I made an appointment for the weekend that my mom was in town, and invited my BM and my MIL (we actually were on the outs prior to the event but have been talking ever since!). This was the first time anyone was seeing MY actual dress, including me, and that still made it special and in the end, she was really happy that she was invited and she actually thanked me!!!